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Trying to raise awareness on the heartbreak that comes with trying to conceive, Megan Lynne Ferrero, from the US, took to Facebook to share her own story.

*TRIGGER WARNING some readers may find this story upsetting*

In her now-viral post which has attracted over 45,000 likes, she wrote:

“Everyone talks about the positive results, but we rarely hear about the struggles of the negatives.

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“We rarely talk about waiting for the screen to fill up and noticing it skipped right over the first line that should’ve been there and goes right to that solo second “not pregnant” line.

“Or about how we check the test 3 minutes later, and then 10 minutes later, and then just for shits and giggles 30 minutes later to see if that magic second line made an appearance. If you’re like me, you might even check it days later as you pass by the trash bin in your bathroom because maybe somehow it just took a little bit longer for the test to process.

“Or how we take a picture of the test with the flash off. Then with it on. Then upside down in a handstand. Then editing the picture to make it lighter or darker or crisper or blurrier, trying to see if any angle or any edit can make those 2 pink lines visible.

“We rarely talk about how before we take the test, in our minds we count out to see what month the baby would be born in and think about all the cute ways you can announce.

“It starts with picturing that you’ll be able to announce with something like “Red, White, and Due” on the 4th of July. Then it turns into possibly making a surprise trip home to tell the family before summer is over. Then August and September pass and you decide it’s okay because announcing at Halloween is just as exciting. And then Halloween passes and you still haven’t gotten a positive.

“They tell you stressing over it just makes it even harder for it to happen, so you try to pretend you’re not stressing (let’s all get a good laugh out of that one) because apparently that makes your whole reproductive system turn on you. But you can’t help but panic a little when the months keep going by and you don’t have a brother or sister in there for your current child and the idea of having them close in age becomes more and more of an unrealistic fantasy.

“We don’t talk about how shitty we feel about ourselves when we see another pregnancy announcement on our timeline and for a split second, we’re jealous. How you can be so happy for someone at the same time that you’re envious of them.

“Regardless of how long you’ve been struggling this struggle or if you struggled with it in the past – I see you, I feel you, I am you.”

Her post has attracted nearly 60,000 shares.

I can totally relate! It is such a lonely journey at times.

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  • What a very real and honest account.

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  • I love that she has voiced her struggle as so many couples experience this and do it in silence.

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  • Ahhhh yes… the hopes and dreams that come from peeing on a stick. The anxiety, the watching the clock, the 3 tests to make sure that the first and second were wrong. Just terrible.

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  • So many emotions and so many hopes shattered.

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  • Yes this can be very heart breaking

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  • A negative test can cause such heartache for some indeed, hopes and dreams may be shattered everytime it happens.

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  • Very true. This brings back so many raw emotions for me when we were trying

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  • I know a couple who gave up hope and adopted a baby. Two months later she conceived so they have 2 babies very close together in age.

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  • This is something you very rarely hear of. Whilst I’ve never experienced this I now have some insight into what some women go through. I hope she gets her baby and every other trying couple out there do too!

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  • I have seen a friend go through this, she has given up after 12 years of trying to get her son a sibling. There were a few miscarriages before her son. Yet as this woman says some people are getting lucky or unlucky (un wanted) ones.

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  • I think it’s so important that we talk about our struggles because it may just be what someone else with the same struggle needs to read/hear.

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  • Actually becoming pregnant is really difficult. Some people have it easier than others, that’s for sure. And a negative test is heartbreaking when you struggle on getting pregnant. :-(

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  • I can completely relate to this right now. It can be such a shitty feeling.

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  • Yes , been there ,took me about 5 years to get pregnant , it felt like ages.

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  • I have a sister who has been trying for 2 years now went her and hubby to Drs did all checks and tests and it’s not happening yet .she brakes my heart when she does the test and it’s negative so I totally understand you.

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