Unplanned pregnancy can be alarming and life altering news for anyone. At the same time, it can be a life changing experience if taken in the right spirit and attitude.
Thinking about what to do with an unwanted pregnancy? Well, there are always three major choices that can be made:
- Continue with the pregnancy and keep the baby.
- To end the pregnancy by having an abortion.
- Continue with the pregnancy and have the baby adopted.
In order to make a good choice, it is important to talk to people who are trustworthy and are well informed about each process.
You won’t have to make these difficult choices if you prevent such occurrences in the first place.
Choosing abstinence from sex can prevent you from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Using condoms and contraceptives are the most trusted forms of birth control.
1) If you decide to end a pregnancy
If you take a decision to abort the baby to end a pregnancy, it is important you have your partner/husband’s consent, or it could lead to disputes later on.
Also, your partner/husband’s support is crucial through the entire process as it will be tough.
Besides the physical strain, you will go through feelings of depression, sorrow and guilt and even conflicts of religious beliefs. Even family members may look down upon you.
It is important to know that you are not alone and that there are lots of women going through the same struggle as you.
Share your thoughts with your partner, a counselor or a close friend whom you trust.
2) If you decide to go ahead with the pregnancy
If you have decided to go ahead with the pregnancy, it is vital that you have the right attitude towards it. Here are a few ways to train your mind around the idea:
Allow the negative feelings to come and go:
Every woman will feel a sense of shock and anger and even be upset about getting pregnant. It is perfectly healthy and normal to go through these feelings and let go off them when it’s just the right time.
Don’t feel guilty about having them, let these feelings pass. It should be a passing phase. It is important to sort out your emotions as well.
Express your emotions openly with family, friends and loved ones. Talk to a counselor if necessary.
Start focusing your mind on the baby inside you.
Start assessing your immediate needs:
It is important to evaluate and be aware of the necessary steps that need to be taken to care for yourself and the child you are carrying.
The first step would be to consult a doctor. If you are a chain smoker or drink too much, now is the right time to make a wise choice and cut the habit.
If you were eating a lot of junk food until now, you would need to focus on eating healthier food.
Create a good support system:
If you don’t have a good support structure, dealing with an unplanned pregnancy can be difficult.
Use the time to find a good support system filled with people who understand, care and strengthen you at each step.
Take the time to figure out your financial situation, your career standing and your relationships. Discuss with your partner about taking responsibility for the child together.
Gather information and educate yourself:
Empower yourself with key information about all the doubts you have about pregnancy and being a mother.
Use both online resources and the plethora of books available on motherhood and pregnancy.
By being well informed, you will have the confidence to face the challenges of pregnancy and parenting. All the knowledge will keep you ready for the new experiences ahead.
3) If you decide to have the baby adopted
Though you have at least nine months to make your mind up on this, giving up the baby for adoption has to be a carefully made decision. There are many couples who don’t or can’t have children, and so there is a considerable demand to adopt babies.
Talk to professionals in the field and take a final call on this after discussions with your family and loved ones.
Though the outcome may not always be what you desire, it is important that you do not feel that you are giving up on the baby. You are choosing to give a better life for your child, which you feel you cannot provide.
You place the child into the arms of thankful and loving parents who would take care of the child as their own.
Ultimately, it is all a matter of the choices we make. Surprises like unwanted pregnancies can be avoided if precautionary steps are taken at the right time.
In many cases, you may not be able to prevent what you didn’t predict. In such scenarios, your attitude and decisions can change the course of your life. Choose wisely!