A dad-to-be says his wife’s pregnancy was destroying his sleep, so he now makes her sleep in another room. But when his mother-in-law found out, all hell broke loose.
He admits that the situation doesn’t look great on the surface, but says he wants people to hear him out, before making a judgement on whether he’s in the right or wrong.
“So my wife is five months pregnant,” he explained on reddit. “The pregnancy has been quite difficult for the both of us. She has hyperemesis gravidarum and it is extremely stressful on her. Hence she is not able to work even part time and I have to pick up most of the slack, I work full time from 8am to 7pm.”
‘Her twists and turns destroy my sleep’
The dad-to-be explained that for the past couple of months his wife has been plagued by pregnancy insomnia, as well as the usual pregnancy symptoms that interrupt sleep.
“There is a lot of twists and turns and getting up to go to the bathroom every few minutes. It absolutely destroys my sleep. I don’t want to sound like an asshole but I have to wake up early for work and because I am a sensitive sleeper I jolt awake easy with all the sudden movements.
“I had put up with it for a month till I decided I could not deal with it anymore. I was only getting five hours of sleep and being in the tech industry it is super hard to function with limited sleep. I had brought this up to her mildly and respectfully and she completely understood.”
He says his wife relocated to a spare room, and when her parents recently came to stay, they weren’t impressed.
“She had casually joked about how she sleeps in a different room. My MIL did not take this lightly and pulled me aside on why I have done this. I explained my defence and she said it is the least I could do to help her. It’s not like I can actively help her anyway with her sleep problems? We went back and forth for a while until my wife chimed in and said it is no bother and we should leave it be.
“I had a small argument with my wife after they left (for bringing it up in front of them) and I feel really guilty. We have made up, but it got me thinking if I am the asshole for really making her sleep in a separate room or if I am just looking out for my health?”
What do you think? Let us know in the comments below.We may get commissions for purchases made using links in this post. Learn more.