It’s one thing when your own children misbehave, but when your friends’ little ones lash out, and damage your home – it’s a whole other ball game.

A frustrated woman says she’s considering banning her friend’s five-year-old son from her house, after he kicked a hole in her wall. She says it was the last straw, after a watching him self-destruct many times. She says she doesn’t think his own mother can control him, so why should she have to put up with his behaviour.

“There are no special needs involved. He is brat and acts out destroying things and attacking people to get his own way,” the woman explained on Mumsnet. “She says ‘no’ he goes on a 30-45 minute rampage which ends in him doing something like smashing a TV, phone screen or head butting someone on the nose causing a nose bleed etc etc.

“She then gives in and he gets what he wants and he INSTANTLY snaps out of the tantrum until he hears the word ‘no’ again and then it is a repeat. Would it be mean to ban a just turned five-year-old from my house? I find his behaviour unbearable and absolutely detest spending anytime with him.”

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  • I would be open and talk to the kids mum


  • There are some people or kids who are not welcome at our home.less stress for us


  • Best to find neutral grounds me thinks!


  • We had a similar situation and subsequently spent catch ups at a play centre or at the park.


  • Sounds like a nightmare. Sadly I’d just probably not invite then to mine again and instead meet in a park or something.


  • No one should have to put up with that. So yes, although it’s hard because he is so young, I would probably do the same thing.


  • Yes you definitely have every right to ban anyone who misbehaves in your home. I’d send his parents a bill for the damage he’s done and let her know he’s no longer welcome. If you still want to spend time with your friend, suggest other places to meet up, possibly a park that’s easy for both of you to get to.


  • She has every right to do so. Children if taught manners, respect and morals and having boundaries set, will not be destructive and misbehave. I was brought up by very strict parents and I am so grateful for the qualities they instilled in me. I have the uttermost respect for older people, I treasure other peoples possessions and no what is right from wrong.


  • This is a very sticky subject, if close to you can be open with mum


  • Maybe play dates at a park instead


  • I’d arrange play dates in a nearby park.


  • Find neutral ground for any further Olay dates. I see anyway you approach this, the mum friend will take offence.
    However if she does, would it be any loss? His behaviour my go on all his childhood.


  • I think you’d be best to have catch up’s perhaps in the backyard or local park. this way you an still have your friendship/their kids over without any pressure


  • Yes, I would try to plan catch ups at the park or at their place instead of yours too


  • I think it’s okay to set boundaries but it will test the friendship


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