100% fair. its your home and you can have anyone you wish there and you have the right to deny anyone also. Just be aware that the ban will probably tamper with your friendship.

It’s fair not wanting the child at your house. But i think the mother needs help with her child and i don’t believe at 5 he is just being a brat. Just because he isn’t diagnosed with any special needs it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have something. His behaviours sound a lot like my 3 year old but more extreme. My 3 year old has ADHD and has zero control over his emotions and lashes out with violence and aggression. When he’s old enough he will also get diagnosed with ODD. Anxiety can also show signs of anger. Perhaps you could recommend your friend to seek out help from a Paediatrician, and if that hasn’t helped then she needs a different Paediatrician.

Don’t invite them around take all your catch ups out somewhere in public then no stress for you

I would be open and talk to the kids mum

There are some people or kids who are not welcome at our home.less stress for us

Best to find neutral grounds me thinks!

We had a similar situation and subsequently spent catch ups at a play centre or at the park.

Sounds like a nightmare. Sadly I’d just probably not invite then to mine again and instead meet in a park or something.

No one should have to put up with that. So yes, although it’s hard because he is so young, I would probably do the same thing.

Yes you definitely have every right to ban anyone who misbehaves in your home. I’d send his parents a bill for the damage he’s done and let her know he’s no longer welcome. If you still want to spend time with your friend, suggest other places to meet up, possibly a park that’s easy for both of you to get to.

She has every right to do so. Children if taught manners, respect and morals and having boundaries set, will not be destructive and misbehave. I was brought up by very strict parents and I am so grateful for the qualities they instilled in me. I have the uttermost respect for older people, I treasure other peoples possessions and no what is right from wrong.

This is a very sticky subject, if close to you can be open with mum

Maybe play dates at a park instead

I’d arrange play dates in a nearby park.

Find neutral ground for any further Olay dates. I see anyway you approach this, the mum friend will take offence.
However if she does, would it be any loss? His behaviour my go on all his childhood.

I think you’d be best to have catch up’s perhaps in the backyard or local park. this way you an still have your friendship/their kids over without any pressure

Yes, I would try to plan catch ups at the park or at their place instead of yours too

I think it’s okay to set boundaries but it will test the friendship

It’s definitely okay to have boundaries in your own home

Depends how highly she values the friendship. Maybe meet up at the friend’s house or in a local park or playground to keep the kid out of her home