I think is a beautiful gesture to remember someone that you loved and passed away. The new partner might be a bit insecure. I don’t see anything wrong.

I would say your wife would feel second best right now. Honor your ex-girlfriend by naming a star not your child with your wife and her first baby. Different if it was a sibling but your past lover that you clearly loved very much and probably still do. I’ve been married 40 years and very open minded and never make comments, but this one I had too. Don’t you think asking your wife to remember your ex for the rest of her life is a bit much to ask?

Sorry don’t agree
I know someone who done just that but was female
She honoured a promise to herself that she if ever had another child that child would have that name
This child is now an adult and has full knowledge of how they received their first name
His family is so welcoming to all her children and don’t favour one over the other
In this instances it has shown that there is gain in the face of there lose
All parties involved have great love and respect for each other

The more I think about it, the more I find this insensitive towards his wife.

I see why he would want to but I think given he’s in a new relationship it’s not appropriate.

Perhaps as a middle name. That might be the compromise. Too hard on both of them otherwise.

I understand his feelings and reasons for wanting to do so. But my thoughts are: has he let go of that relationship, and how strong are his feelings towards the deceased now.
Its best to leave the past and his memories in the past, and cherish the birth of his newborn as a new beginning.

I understand his feelings, but this is truly a bit weird. He should accept that his wife has a point and find another way to honor his ex.

I would definitely say no, don’t do this. Having been named after someone without consultation of the mother, I never knew my real name until I went to school. Don’t put your daughter through this trauma, please.

I can see where the dad is coming from but I wouldn’t have been happy if I was his partner.

While I can understand the dad wanted to honour a friend/girlfriend I can also understand why the mum doesnt want to. I think in this case the name needs to be something they BOTH love.

I can understand the wife feels uncomfortable and maybe hurt by the husband’s suggestion

Reading the full story I think it’s a lovely thought but a lot to be expected if the mother doesn’t want to. There are other ways to commemorate his lost love.

Wow! Dad should not of suggested that at all. Pregnancy is hard enough without partners making comments or suggestions to deepen those moments of self doubt.
Definitely wouldn’t be impressed nor agreeing to name my baby that.

Thats a tough one. I think its beautiful wanting to honor the memory of someone who was so special to you. But given its both your child, and not only would it be a reminder of the ex to the wife, but Nancy wasn’t special in wife’s life. I think names need to be happily agreed on by both parents. Its an awkward one but i don’t think its going to happen for the husband.