I’m an introvert. I always suspected it.
If I ever mentioned it, people laughed. Because (as several lovely folk have put it), I really love a chat. And this is also true. I think you can be an introvert, and still love other people.
“Extroverts are energised by being around other people, while an introvert is drained by it. Indeed, introverts are energised by being alone.”
It goes on to say that introverts:
- Avoid phone calls (they prefer to email or text)
- Don’t enjoy meetings
- Think of answers to questions five minutes after the conversation has moved on
- Don’t answer the phone unless they can see who it is
- They love working from home. Ka..Ching!!!
Otherwise known as the story of my life.
I am terrible at ringing people. Even the ones I love. Which isn’t fair. And I’m sorry. At least now I know why.
I used to struggle in all meetings, and especially those requiring quick ideas and on the spot answers (ie. any input at all), way back when I had my other job in my other life. My mind goes blank. I have to go away and hide and only then does it come up with all sorts of stuff.
And I cannot tell you how much I love walking into the quiet house after the school drop off. The best days are the ones where I can just stay there all day. Curled up in my burrow, looking at the outside world through my computer screen instead of living it.
Sounds a bit sad when you put it like that.
But I love a good party, love having people over, love going out. I just need a bit of quiet time afterwards to recharge.
The kids like to recharge too, often while sitting on me or near me. Maybe I’m like their electrical plug. There is one sitting on the floor next to me right now. Pretending not to be there so she doesn’t get banned from the study for talking. Just being close.
He’s what Peter Crocker from Flying Solo said:
“Cain goes to great lengths to explain that she loves extroverts – indeed she married one – and that teamwork, charisma and collaboration are all very important in business.
However, in her book she argues that modern society undervalues introverts dramatically and that our schools and work places are biased towards extroverts and collaboration, despite more than one third of people identifying as introvert.”
One third! That’s a lot of people who like ‘me’ time, having daily battles with our internal recluse.
So when I mentioned the article to a few friends, I was not surprised that many (who seem very social on the surface), identified with the article, and the traits of an introvert.
We must all unite. But not for long, because we’ll get twitchy and need to go off by ourselves for a bit…