As a mum, I will be the first to say that I like things done a certain way, but has this mum gone too far by banning her husband from bathing the baby because he was ‘gross’?
My husband is pretty hands on when it comes to parenting, but even I would quietly rejoice if he ever wanted to take things off my plate, like cooking dinner or bathing the kids. One mum on reddit though, has become quite upset after she left her husband with the baby while she went out for a bit. She wants to know if she’s wrong for “calling my husband gross and banning him from bathing our son?”
The 27-year-old first time mum has an 8 month old son with her husband. She’s loved up with her little bundle of joy, “He’s such a blessing but as new parents we’re fairly exhausted and are just trying to take it one day at a time.”
“My husband helps, big time and us super involved as a father though he can be clueless at times when it comes to our son’s care. I handle the big tasks like feeding (obviously) changing and bathing while he handles cleaning up mess, rearranging sheets/blankets and doing some cleaning on the side.”
She went out to grab some groceries, leaving her husband in charge of her son while he was sleeping, telling him there wasn’t anything to do, that he could just chill out and she’d be back in hour.
And then she returned
“I came back an hour later and once I entered the apartment I heard my son cry loudly. I entered the kitchen quickly and saw my husband placing our son inside the kitchen sink and looked like he was giving him a bath. I got mad seeing our son crying loudly I asked my husband wtf he was doing and he said he was trying to give our son a bath.”
Having a bath in the kitchen or laundry sink is quite the rite of passage for most kids, but this was unheard of for this mum.
“I called him gross and grabbed a towel and removed our son from inside the sink,” the frustrated mum shared. “My husband asked what I was doing and I lashed out calling him gross to think it’s okay to bath our son in the kitchen sink and potentially harm him since there were glasses/sharp tools nearby. I told him it wasn’t his job and he should’ve done it and that he’s banned from doing it again.”
The husband wasn’t happy, calling his wife “controlling and selfish”. Now this mum is worried she was too hard on her husband.
Do you think it’s weird to bath a baby in the sink? Or is she right to call her husband gross and ban him from bathing duties?