As a mum, I will be the first to say that I like things done a certain way, but has this mum gone too far by banning her husband from bathing the baby because he was ‘gross’?

My husband is pretty hands on when it comes to parenting, but even I would quietly rejoice if he ever wanted to take things off my plate, like cooking dinner or bathing the kids. One mum on reddit though, has become quite upset after she left her husband with the baby while she went out for a bit. She wants to know if she’s wrong for “calling my husband gross and banning him from bathing our son?”

The 27-year-old first time mum has an 8 month old son with her husband. She’s loved up with her little bundle of joy, “He’s such a blessing but as new parents we’re fairly exhausted and are just trying to take it one day at a time.”

“My husband helps, big time and us super involved as a father though he can be clueless at times when it comes to our son’s care. I handle the big tasks like feeding (obviously) changing and bathing while he handles cleaning up mess, rearranging sheets/blankets and doing some cleaning on the side.”

She went out to grab some groceries, leaving her husband in charge of her son while he was sleeping, telling him there wasn’t anything to do, that he could just chill out and she’d be back in hour.

And then she returned

“I came back an hour later and once I entered the apartment I heard my son cry loudly. I entered the kitchen quickly and saw my husband placing our son inside the kitchen sink and looked like he was giving him a bath. I got mad seeing our son crying loudly I asked my husband wtf he was doing and he said he was trying to give our son a bath.”

Having a bath in the kitchen or laundry sink is quite the rite of passage for most kids, but this was unheard of for this mum.

“I called him gross and grabbed a towel and removed our son from inside the sink,” the frustrated mum shared. “My husband asked what I was doing and I lashed out calling him gross to think it’s okay to bath our son in the kitchen sink and potentially harm him since there were glasses/sharp tools nearby. I told him it wasn’t his job and he should’ve done it and that he’s banned from doing it again.”

The husband wasn’t happy, calling his wife “controlling and selfish”. Now this mum is worried she was too hard on her husband.

Do you think it’s weird to bath a baby in the sink? Or is she right to call her husband gross and ban him from bathing duties?

  • I think it is gross as well mire so for the fact dishes are washed in a sink and babies can do things in baths ……
    Then washing dishes in same sink.is gross.


  • Over reacting to this scenario. Yes maybe dad’s “safety radar” isn’t quite like mum’s is but tell him why you didn’t like him doing that. He just feels incompetent if this is how she treats her partner when he helps. She asked for his help then tells him off, explain why.


  • That would be the quickest way to lose the help needed by the other parent of the child. What will happen when you have two or three children and desperately need that sort of help? Many babies actually prefer being able to sit up and hold on to the tap when being bathed as it stops them feeling they are about to be drowned in a big bath.


  • The people who are saying it’s a bit gross in the kitchen sink aren’t entirely wrong, I guess, but I still don’t think it’s deserving of this response.


  • I have never bathed my son in the sink, but I have seen images of people who do. Not my thing, but I understand not everyone has a bath, either. So each to their own.


  • I personally wouldn’t bath my babies in the kitchen sink but she could have just told him that instead of going all crazy and banning him from bathing their bub.
    It’s a hard find to have someone help out so I would definitely be more appreciative.
    I know at times anger makes us lash out at the ones we love but more often than not we feel bad after. This didn’t seem like the case for them, sadly…


  • 100% too hard.. I got mad at her just reading this.. he wants to be a hands on dad and was trying to help you out.. let him. It’s his child to.


  • I think that she was too hard on him. Lots of kids have had a bath in a sink or laundry tub. She could have explained why she didn’t like it then asked him to use the bath tub next time. Why give up having help for just one little mistake in her eyes?


  • I agree with Mum. I’m “old school” perhaps. BUT I do feel the kitchen sink is designed for washing dished and NOT for bathing babies, (what is he had wee’d or worse in the sink, then Mum had to wash the dishes in there. I would have had words to say to my daughters if I had seen them doing this with their babies. Maybe the laundry troughs would not be as bad, .but kitchen sink??? Uh!!


  • Gross overreaction more like. I can’t even understand where she’s coming from considering how much he’s been doing to help!


  • Yeah definitely over reacted. I understand that sometimes mums have a set notion in their minds but to be so harsh .. naaa he must have felt so bad


  • “Not his job” just wow.


  • Wow, big overreaction. I have bathed my daughter in the kitchen sink. What’s the big deal. It’s not like I put her in there with the dishes. I think this woman needs to chill and let her husband help.


  • She should apologies. What an over reaction, it is probably easier to bath the baby in the sink then the bathtub anyway, especially on your back. I wouldn’t have cared where my husband bathed the baby as long as he helped. She should thank her lucky stars for such a helpful husband.


  • Wow I think the Mum was completely out of line, she’s lucky she has such a hands on husband. My sister babysat my daughter and sent me a photo of her bathing her in the sink and I was like why didn’t I think of that earlier? So much easier!


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