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I have recently taken an RWO (rostered week off), a luxury I know but very needed. During this time of reflection and rest I have come to the realisation that for most of us the biggest thing we need to declutter is our schedules.

When working with a client looking to declutter and organise their space, one of the first questions I ask them is “what do you want from this space?” This is important, firstly so that I know what the client is wanting to achieve but secondly, and more importantly, so that the client takes a moment and articulates their feelings. I write down the said purpose and feeling that the client wants to achieve to refer back to it over our time together.

Sometimes the vision you articulate is unrealistic for the space, maybe due to space, budget, lifestyle and a compromised solution needs to be found, sometimes it only needs a little tweaking to fulfil the brief.

I want you to stop for a moment and articulate what you want from your schedule. What is it you want to do each day, what do you need to do, what really is important?

We are trying so hard to cram so much of life into our time, that we are often failing to enjoy it.

So let’s have a look at your schedule – does it need just a little tweaking or a full reality check? Have you got time allowed for events to go overtime, to take an important call from a friend, to have a cup of tea, to play, to read, to catch up, or just to breathe?  Similarly to working on your drawers and cupboards, the initial declutter forces us to keep only what we really need but the true beauty of the organising is in the space between the items – the white space. White space is essential as it allows for overflows at stressful times, it allows for growth and flexibility when needed, it allows for your things to breathe and to just be in the space.

You need sleep, you need food, you need love. We do not need to learn pilates, attend every school event, sporting activity or even every social get together. It’s OK to stop, to have some white space in your diary. Your kids are not happier being run around like crazy people with a stressed out mum. Your friends don’t care that you have attended every event but are not really present. Most of all you are not happier feeling overwhelmed with calendar clutter.

Let’s look at after school activities as an example. The initial intention of these activities is to be a fun and often educational experience. What they often turn into is a forced event that not only stretches our time management skills to the max but often puts strain on our budgets and our stress levels. I see it all the time, mums rushing to find the right shoes or bag, pleading for the kids to get in the car, fighting the traffic to get there only to complain that the teacher or coach isn’t producing the results we want for our kids.

Swimming school, scouts, playing an instrument, participating in sport, tutoring and more. What is it all for? Is this what you want from life? For your kid’s life? Could the initial intention of some fun and fitness be achieved by just taking the kids to the park or going for a walk? Maybe they could help make dinner or just have a playdate?

Before you burn out, crash out, melt down or self combust – STOP and evaluate what you really want. No fancy organising app or family planner can help if your calendar is cluttered so go to your diary and start decluttering the things that do not fulfil the vision you want for your life.

Do you find yourself constantly rushing? How does it make you feel? Please share in the comments below.

  • I suffer from anxiety and find that I am always rushing around, but I suppose that goes with the territory of being a parent. I think when we are overwhelmed we need to give ourselves permission to take a break or say that we need help. More often than not we put our needs on the backburner.

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  • This is a great read! I definitely need to stop filling my days and focus more on just being.

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  • Great read ! There are times that our days are very full and we feel we’re running a race and we just can’t stop. I always keep in mind that a race is a temporary thing and that after a race it’s good to rest and restore and stretch our legs. Very important to allow some white space in our days to sit with our kids, go out for a cuppa, catch up with our friends, have a beauty treatment or just take a shower :)

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  • Great topic – just too hard to do at present with lots and lots of doctor’s appointments for the next month or more.
    But the time will come when I’ll find some time for myself again – just like right now, for a few minutes on this site. It clears my mind for the next day.

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  • some wise words there… sound advice. Prioritising is essential

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  • I cant handle not having some down time. I get burnt out easily and start to feel stressed.
    I very much need my alone time.

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  • One of my Mum’s favourite sayings was “don’t put it down put it away”. Very true. No clutter and trying to move around it. They say you sleep better and have more energy if your bedroom isn’t cluttered. You are less likely to fall over something and have enjoyable leisure time, not boring time nursing injuries.

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  • There are some things you might not want or need to do but which are kinda essential… Like some family events.


    • Yes but sometimes in our need to people please we attend all, even if not always critical.

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  • Thanks for your article – always make free relax time.

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  • Yes, I also feel like I’m often rushing. Making some time free is the best gift we can make to ourselves and our families!

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  • Most of the time we are rushing around to get everything done in a day and you do need time out to just relax!

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