This Mums vent is well worth a read, please stop saying “OH but back in our day kids did it and no one died”.

Krechelle Carter is a mum of six and blogs on Eight at Home. Her recent Facebook rant had us all nodding our heads in agreement and wishing Gertrude would just keep her opinions to herself!

“OH but back in our day kids did it and no one died”.

Dear Gertrude,

Well actually they did.
All of the time.
And then they did all of this scientific research which costs millions of dollars
And thats why we now have all of these precautions in place.

How about you put that in your pipe and smoke it.

This is Why I won’t apologise for parenting the way I see fit.
And why you shouldn’t listen when Aunty Gertrude pulls out her dated advice and tells you to just feed your eight week old porridge.

And why I wish people would take their opinions and put them where the sun doesn’t shine.
And when aunty Gertrude pulls out this one: “Oh wow your a mum in twentieth century your life is so hard, why don’t you just stop complaining”

I want to pull out one of these ones: Ahhh excuse you!!!! It is f**king hard.
And you wouldn’t know because you haven’t been one.
It’s not just hey here’s a child take her home and do your best.
“She’ll be right mate”

I reckon when I left the hospital I had seventeen different follow up appointments and twenty two brochures on how to do parenting right.

Mate, I wasn’t even sleeping and they want me to go to all of these appointments on time and read pamphlets,
well if that doesn’t make a new mum loose her shit; I Don’t know what will.

It’s breast is best.
And heat your bottle to 98.5 degrees
And don’t let your baby have too much tummy time
And make sure you child is achieving milestones and wonder weeks
I still don’t understand wonder weeks.
What the f**k is a wonder week?

Welcome to parenting in 2017
Where you can buy a cheap car seat but your basically killing your child if you do because who the f**k buys the cheapest car seat when it does the same job as the others. I’ll put it out there. I have some cheap car seats. They’re Australian standard approved.
Don’t look at me like that Susan. I’m doing the best I can.

I get really confused on how the older generation disregard the fact that we have 712 guidelines to follow**** all that are proven to keep our children alive and not just alive but to live up to their best potentials.
But apparently were all just winging b**ches, That need to let our children eat mud.
And we can’t deal with life.

Well excuse me if I can’t seem to hold down a job and keep up with the 712 guidelines and be a normal functioning member of society and then keep up an adult relationship with my significant other, all while trying to look as pretty as possible while replying to 700 emails.

I just don’t understand what you want from me.

IF I say I’m having a sh**ty day Gertrude how about you just shut your mouth, hold the damn baby. And tell me I’m beautiful.
News flash there is no f**king guidelines for that one. That one hasn’t changed in hundreds of years.

Yours sincerely a twentieth century Guppy who needs a Valium.

This post originally appeared on Eightathome Facebook page

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  • I think I the old ducks need to take in to count that the olds day are far gone and this is now and they need to keep their stupid opinions to themselves.


  • This is an argument that is heard all too often. Times have changed so much since ‘back in the day …. ‘ and for a reason.


  • I used to have this argument with my mother in law quite regularly. Things definitely change with time and with more experience.


  • Nothing wrong to listen to advice from friends family, doctors, nurses, online articles and research and build our opinion based on that. We don’t have to take all advice and make it our own.


  • Love it, along with the song, ‘Biscuits and gravy.’


  • I have a cheap car seat (that has outlasted all my friends expensive ones) and have never even heard of wonder weeks.


  • Stick to your own opinions and what you know not other people!


  • So many people think like that. I remember being pregnant, at a New Year’s Eve celebration and people telling me to drink a glass of champagne. What? No! I don’t drink any alcohol while pregnant. “Why not? I did it all the time and my kids turned out just fine.”
    No, thanks, I stick to my Ginger Ale!!

    • I agree with you – I had people try to sway me that one drink was ok when I was pregnant. I have strong views on this issue and said no politely and then quite firmly when it was said again!

      • It’s indeed a very important issue. And I almost wanted to tell those people that are ignorant. ;-) But I don’t like being rude so I kept that to myself. :-)


  • Parenting is tough…. gotta find your own groove and way to do it


  • Yep Gertrude has No idea! Parenting is a lot different these days! There is so much pressure on mums and dads to work, maintain there appearance, ensure their child has top grades. How about we all step back for a minute and if we hear a mum or dad struggling actually listen and do what we can to help!


  • I listened to advice, researched, weighed it all up came away with what works for our family and parenting style. I don’t mind people giving advice – sometimes the advice is good advice and I have an open mind.


  • my toddler doesn’t sleep and i got told give him phenergan, told them he was too young for that, give it anyway. WTF my kid is below the age and well below the weight (22 months old but was premature so only rought the size of an 8 month old) and no I will not drug my baby just because I need a little more sleep!


  • When I think of the playground equipment I used to play on it was lots of fun, but also more dangerous. I think it’s better to err on the side of caution.


  • I agree. We know better about lots of things now.


  • It’s hard to find the right balance between being a helicopter parent and letting them have their independence and freedom. New technology has allowed our children to be both safer and have parents worry as much.


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