Sounds totally over the top to me ! Of course we are all identified by the many relationships we have to others: I am someone’s daughter, I am someones’ sister, I am someone’s wife, I am someone’s mother, I am someone’s legal guardian, I am someone’s friend, I am someone’s neighbour, etc

I think it is an overreaction. Does it really matter? We can nit pick everything out there. It’s probably just some on script the school has had for years and those are the positions to be cast. It’s only an issue if you make it one.

The ‘someone’ probably didn’t have a name either and was just ‘someone’s husband’. The poster states, “No woman should be identified by her relationship to a man.” Really? So, I can no longer be referred to as my adult son’s mother? Or I can no longer be referred to as my brother’s sister? The word ‘wife’ is just a noun to describe a person’s relationship to someone else. It is the same as any other noun given to relationships, including ‘husband’, ‘boyfriend’, ‘girlfriend’. I wonder if the poster would have had a similar issue if a boy had come home and said he was playing the role of someone’s husband?

I honestly wouldn’t have thought twice about this…

I’m not seeing an issue. People these days just love to complain and be offended

Well what’s the alternative name? I mean if she was the innkeepers wife then what else should she be called? I mean you could call her by the name but then no one would know who she was? Bit ridiculous really

As long as she was taking partnof it…

Seriously, there are much bigger issues in the world.

I’ve seen boys having to play the part of wives because there weren’t enough girls. What would she’d think if her daughter was cast as the innkeeper and another girl played the innkeeper’s wife?

I’m just puzzled people can get upset about such a thing. Most likely the daughter hasn’t a clue why her mum is so upset

its a play and there was going to be roles. i think communication with the school would have been a starter if you had an issue

It wouldn’t have bothered me. And if her daughter has no issue with it, don’t make it one.

Ohhh dear! That’s how it was then. Not ideal, but if you change it, you are re-writing and mis-representing what to believers is history. And it smacks of over-wokeness. Shudder…..dont be that parent, please!!!

Utterly ridiculous! Clearly, she’s never actually read the bible where it’s common for women to be referred to that way I.e. Lot’s wife. The inn-keeper’s wife isn’t actually mentioned at all in the bible. Clearly they just needed an extra role for her daughter to fill. She should be pleased they made an effort to include her.

She is insane. She is that parent.

Can you imagine how the child feels. She has a role in the school play and mum makes these comments that will eventually make her stop wanting to be in the school plays. It’s so sad that kids can’t enjoy the simple things in life and enjoy life itself. Sooner or later the daughter wont be picked for a play or wont want to do plays at all because of her mums behaviour. Would mum react like this if her child had a part as a sheep?

Would she be lashing out if her daughter was cast as Mary..I think NOT. I feel this is a cause of sour grapes. Turn your grapes into wine and take a chill pill sister.

Would this woman lash out if her daughter was casted as Mary …I think not. Sour grapes here ..she is just out to cause trouble.

Bit over the top. It’s possibly a made up part for her child.

I am amused that people are not even thinking through what she is saying before ridiculing it. The gender imbalance in society is never going to end if we don’t at least question things. If you look at the TV show Bridgerton, the first thing that struck me was that many characters are played by actors of an African background, when logically 18th century England did not have African royals or courtiers, they would have been slaves. But the network has obviously realised that having all of those shows constantly just having white actors, is inherently giving privilege to white people. Even the word ‘actress’ is no longer used, with actors of both genders being recognised together, at least in title. So why not question a Christmas play? Why not question why girls clothes are often designed for fashion, being less suitable for play? Why not questions why girls are often encouraged to play netball and boys football? If we don’t question things purely because ‘it’s tradition’, things will never change, and we will wonder, why the gender gap continues…..

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  • • KaraB replied
    • 19 Dec 2023 , 12:31 pm

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  I agree with the Mother here. Being cast as some man’s wife! What kind of message is that sending her child? Mother’s groups online are full of bogans (whether out or in denial) and boy do they love to tear other women down. Pause to think about why this mother is upset before going all 1950’s on this poor Mother.