A mum-of-three who wanted to leave her youngest child out of a family holiday has sparked a furious online debate.

Posting on Mumsnet, the anonymous mum said she was about to arrange a holiday with her partner and her two oldest kids, and was thinking of leaving her toddler behind, The Sun reported.

“I was telling my mother about it and she offered to look after my two-year-old for the week,” she wrote.

“We would be able to go to theme/water parks and take the older two on rides etc without one of us having to stay with the baby.

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“Would be able to relax a lot more around the pool as my older two are very confident in water.”

But she revealed that her brother’s girlfriend had called them “awful and selfish parents” and accused her mum of “playing favourites”.

She asked if it was unreasonable to accept her mother’s offer. “Does it really make me a selfish and awful mother?” she asked.

The post received a mixed response, with many telling her it wasn’t acceptable to leave the toddler behind.

What do you think? Would you have a family holiday and leave the youngest kiddies at home?

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  • Think it completely depends on the age of the older children and whether or not the 2 year old would love to stay with her grandma. All have different needs and this could be the perfect solution to a family holiday that isn’t disrupted by one young child.


  • I don’t think I would do it, Having said that I doubt the 2 year old would remember the holiday anyway. She possibly still has day sleeps which could be very difficult if she refuses to go in a stroller. Both the older girls and the little one may or may not benefit from having time apart. I can’t see in the article the ages of the 2 older children. Maybe they want time to be able to do what they want to do and not be held back because the younger one not being able to do the same things. Activities as some places have a mininum age or height too.


  • It’s up to the parents if they take the youngest or not. At least she’s thinking of leaving the toddler with her Mum and not some babysitter. The youngest would probably love having one on one with her grandmother and getting spoilt.


  • This family can do absolutely what they want to. I imagine everyone would have a fabulous holiday. I’ve no doubt the toddler would be missed, and the toddler will miss her family, but I’m also sure she would have been spoilt and had a wonderful holiday with her grandparents. Each to their own.


  • If you post something online be prepared to have people polarise you – there will always be someone who wants to criticise anything you do or support you. Not for me to judge – perhaps this toddler is very hard work. Perhaps the older two have issues with bonding with the parents. I’m sure the toddler would have fun with grandma – maybe they have a very close bond.


  • Why not take the grandma on holidays too? That way the WHOLE family will be there for the adventure, grandma can still look after the 2 year old whilst the mum, and 2 older kids go on a slide or ride, but at least the 2year old will be with the family and still interested in a new exciting adventure with the family.


  • It is easy to make judgements without knowing all the facts. It could work well if done right.


  • I can understand why she would want to leave her toddler home but I think a family holiday would be more memorable. I wouldn’t do it but I wouldn’t condemn it!


  • I think it would be nice to go with the whole family, but at two years old they are too young to understand so I see that point also.


  • I think that for the little one it would be kind of a holiday too staying with grandma, so I don’t see a problem.


  • I don’t see the problem if the toddler was being looked after & safe. Yes it would be nice for the whole family to have gone on holiday together but I can understand that it would be a little easier. Plus it would have been a good bonding moment with the elder kids.


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