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August 2, 2017

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Mum shares how she regrets leaving the decision of circumcision up to her boys dad.

Mum of two, Megan Zander, shares on ROMPER,

“When I found out I was carrying not one but two tiny penises inside me, I immediately deferred all genital-related decisions to my partner. I assumed that he, having a pants sausage of his own, would know better than I about these things.

I grew up with a younger sister, no brothers, and a step-dad who didn’t come on the scene until I was in fifth grade. The only thing I knew about penises was what I learned in ninth grade health class and from my own research between the sheets.”

“So when my partner said he wanted our sons to be circumcised like him, [I had reservations about putting our boys through a medical procedure that, from my point of view, didn’t seem to be all that necessary. Circumcision wasn’t a part of either of our religious beliefs and frankly, I didn’t want our sons to be in any pain. Plus, I didn’t know how they’d feel about being circumcised once they were old enough to understand what had been done to them, and I was more than a little paranoid about the doctor sneezing mid-procedure and well, you know.

But as I didn’t have a penis and my partner did, I let him make the final call. It was one more parenting decision knocked off the list.”

“When I asked my husband why he thought we should circumcise, he said he liked the idea of the boys “looking like he did.” He also thought that many of their peers would also be circumcised and this would spare them potential gym class locker room embarrassment. Plus, he told me circumcision can reduce the spread of AIDS and STIs, facts backed up by research in the journal mBiosphere. As much as I didn’t want to think about my precious babies doing the dirty one day, I liked the idea of protecting them from getting sick, and what my husband said about kids wanting to fit in with each other and their dad made sense to me at the time.

Three years later, I wish I hadn’t been so quick to agree to get my boys snipped.

“I don’t judge anyone who choose to circumcise and I won’t beat myself up for the choices I made when my boys were infants because they made sense to me at the time.

But I do wish I had given the matter a bit more though before I had agreed to have my sons circumcised. If I had known then what I know now, I would’ve left their bodies alone.”

We asked MoM’s how they feel about making decisions around the children – Do you leave the boy bits to dad and the girl bits to mum? Or should it always be a co-parent decision no matter what the gender?

Most of you agreed it should be a joint decision.

This post originally appeared on Romper, you can read the full story here

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  • no i don’t think that i agree to this. Why mutilate a perfect child? this act really should be classed as abuse and be stopped from happening. You wouldn’t go and cut off their little toe just because you can and it might prevent an ingrown nail some day down the line…..

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  • I am sure it is better for a young baby to have the procedure than risk waiting until problems develop, not sexually.

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  • I really cannot understand why mums are so pleased their sons were not circumcised? This helps prevent disease and the sexual experience is more sensitive. I know a lot of you mums will disagree but I only know what I have learnt from the past 50 years from talking to others. Some males do not need it as they have not much foreskin, but others have too much, so it becomes really a personal and medical decision. It should not be decided by parents preferences for other reasons. love to all Lyn

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  • I surely think it’s a common decision. Both mum and dad’s ideas should be taken into account. In particular while talking about circumcision.

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  • It is less of a problem these days, but both my boys were not circumcised and I’m pleased for them.

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  • If my husband had have felt strongly about it I would have definitely taken that into account, but the subject wasn’t considered.

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  • It’s a decision for both, however, there are fewer and fewer doctors these days who will do it as it’s just not necessary.

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  • I can’t see a problem with that , me too o been living this for my husband for his experience

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  • Decisions are not based on gender – parents should be united in all decisions when it comes to their children.

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  • I believe it should be decided by both parents.

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  • We talk about everything and both have a say in all medical decisions.

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