Mum shares how she regrets leaving the decision of circumcision up to her boys dad.
“When I found out I was carrying not one but two tiny penises inside me, I immediately deferred all genital-related decisions to my partner. I assumed that he, having a pants sausage of his own, would know better than I about these things.
I grew up with a younger sister, no brothers, and a step-dad who didn’t come on the scene until I was in fifth grade. The only thing I knew about penises was what I learned in ninth grade health class and from my own research between the sheets.”
“So when my partner said he wanted our sons to be circumcised like him, [I had reservations about putting our boys through a medical procedure that, from my point of view, didn’t seem to be all that necessary. Circumcision wasn’t a part of either of our religious beliefs and frankly, I didn’t want our sons to be in any pain. Plus, I didn’t know how they’d feel about being circumcised once they were old enough to understand what had been done to them, and I was more than a little paranoid about the doctor sneezing mid-procedure and well, you know.
But as I didn’t have a penis and my partner did, I let him make the final call. It was one more parenting decision knocked off the list.”
“When I asked my husband why he thought we should circumcise, he said he liked the idea of the boys “looking like he did.” He also thought that many of their peers would also be circumcised and this would spare them potential gym class locker room embarrassment. Plus, he told me circumcision can reduce the spread of AIDS and STIs, facts backed up by research in the journal mBiosphere. As much as I didn’t want to think about my precious babies doing the dirty one day, I liked the idea of protecting them from getting sick, and what my husband said about kids wanting to fit in with each other and their dad made sense to me at the time.
Three years later, I wish I hadn’t been so quick to agree to get my boys snipped.
“I don’t judge anyone who choose to circumcise and I won’t beat myself up for the choices I made when my boys were infants because they made sense to me at the time.
But I do wish I had given the matter a bit more though before I had agreed to have my sons circumcised. If I had known then what I know now, I would’ve left their bodies alone.”
We asked MoM’s how they feel about making decisions around the children – Do you leave the boy bits to dad and the girl bits to mum? Or should it always be a co-parent decision no matter what the gender?
Most of you agreed it should be a joint decision.
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