Seriously get a grip. Did your parents ask your permission when you were a baby? Did they? How do you know? I 100% cant remember. I have no idea of any conversations that my Mum may have had with me while she was changing my nappy. Maybe she totally disrespected me and didnt ask permission in which case I should be outraged and carry the emotional scars with me for the rest of my life. But maybe she did ask permission. I guess in that case I gave permission and obvioulsy thats why I really think this article is a load of crock. If mum did ask permission why then didnt she inform me of this when I had children as I never asked any of my kids permission to change their nappies. 100% Bad parenting here. Ah well…too late now.

I have never asked permission, couldn’t imagine what mess and infections I would find if they said no! I do talk about changing the nappy, or washing. Certainly not permission, just general chit chat.

Talking them through the process is not the same as asking for permission.

This is so interesting as it is something I never thought about… I just wonder what exactly happens when the child says no but their bum is still dirty…

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 11 Feb 2019 , 8:00 am

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  Exactly, their skin will get sore, infected and cracked !

So she can do that with her child, but there’s no way I’m doing that with mine. I feel like the world is going mad and stooping to new lows when I read articles such as this one.

Have we really sunk this low as a society? There is nothing wrong with changing a nappy or teaching basic hygiene. I really don’t think asking permission is necessary and what would you do if your toddler told you no? You’d still neef to do it anyway and what is that teaching them?

I think it is a great idea to speak about what you are going to do before starting it, the wording might not be exactly asking for permission but at least helping them learn about their body as being their own and not letting just anyone touch it. You could always ask if they are ready for a nappy change, or similar words. And it is quite easy to teach them to wash themselves as they get older.

I used to ask would you like your nappy changed now – it’s a bit smelly prior to doing it. Never had them say no to me once they could talk, but I would have said well let me know when it hurts, and you can’t go outside because the other children don’t want to smell you. I’m sure I would have got a yes then. However, because I changed their nappies more regularly, I don’t think any of mine lasted more than 12 months before they were out of nappies – didn’t like wet urine on their bottoms let alone anything else – they preferred to be clean and dry.

I talk to my boys and say things like “let’s go change that dirty nappy” or “mummy’s going to change your nappy now”
Not exactly asking for permission rather them being aware of what is happening. They are 3.5 and almost 11 months old

So when her child doesn’t give consent she doesn’t bath or clean the child ? That’s harmful !

Interesting view…. I personally wouldn’t go that far with my own kids

Seriously? When a baby needs a nappy change they need a nappy change!

A toddler who hates nappy changes or water will automatically say ‘”no”. So I am supposed to leave my child filthy dirty and end up with blistered skin which becomes infected. That is Child Abuse.
Some days some toddlers will say “no” to everything including food and drinks. “Been down that street with one of my youngsters on a few occasions”.

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  • • mom94898 replied
    • 05 Feb 2019 , 9:58 pm

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  I had a stepson who wouldn’t let anyone bath him, not even his father, and his father would not make him, after four days, I had to put him in the bath with his underpants on, as he hadn’t been going to the toilet for a few days and was doing both in his undies, and they were stuck to him. So I think if a child needs changing , bathing etc, you should let them know but not ask them.

so how long do we let them sit in filth before child services becomes involved

What do you do if they say no??

The problem is when you ask to change their poo nappy and they say no and you do it anyway because you know it needs to be done you are teaching them when someone asks the answer doesn’t matter they will do it anyway and I think that’s a more dangerous message

Not a bad idea actually. If you start doing it when a child is small, it will become automatic when the kids are older.