A mum’s unconventional approach to raising her 10-year-old daughter has sparked heated debate, after she revealed the young girl sometimes doesn’t go to bed until 5am.

The woman’s unique parenting approach is detailed on her TikTok account, where she answers questions about their lifestyle.

She admits herself that the way she’s raising her daughter is both unconventional and controversial.

“No bedtimes. Or wake up times. Sometimes that means going to sleep at 5am and waking up at 4pm,” she explains on her account, called Treeeflower.

“Has never been to school. Chooses what she wants to learn and when she wants to learn it.”

10-year-old has no bedtime, no screen time limit

The mum-of-one also explains that her daughter has no limits on screen time and is allowed to have social media. But she’s not allowed to have sleepovers, not even with family members. In fact, the 10-year-old and her mum still share a bedroom.

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The unconventional mum also says her daughter is encouraged to be opinionated and speak her mind and has never had fast food. She’s also never been spanked.

When asked about how she is socialised with other children, the mum replies: “There are tons of options out there. A few we have personally used are dance classes, yoga classes, horse riding lesson and friends of family.”

And this mum isn’t the first to buck the trend of bedtime, we recently featured a mum who puts her seven-month-old to bed at midnight.

What do you think of the ‘no bedtime’ trend? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Each to their own but how will she ever last as an adult in the real world?


  • each to their own I guess, wouldnt work for my family!


  • Her child her choice but where are the boundaries. How is she going to cope when she goes out into the world on her own!


  • I feel for the little girl. What happens when she has to face the real world and get a job? What experience do you have? Oh not much I dont even have schooling under my belt… I feel like she’s setting her up for failure.


  • It says parenting style but I’m not so sure parenting actually takes places?sounds like she wants to have a best friend not a child! Where are the boundaries that will enable her to function in the real world, to hold a job?
    I’ve nothing against homeschooling, I even chose to homeschool one of mine, but everything followed a routine time and the curriculum. Not so sure this mum is doing her daughter any favours here!


  • I guess each to their own. My son needed a bedtime routine for him to function properly, so that worked for us.


  • I can’t see it working for our family.
    Each family is different but as I work part time, going to bed at 5am wouldn’t work at all.


  • That doesn’t sound to me like that mother is parenting the child.


  • It doesn’t make sense to me but I guess it does to her.


  • I would have loved to home-school my children but since we live across the road from the school, this would never have been allowed. I do think her child will find it hard when she enters the real world and needs a job. They’re not going to let her dictate what hours she does or what work she will do. Hopefully it works out for her when she has to enter that type of situation


  • I don’t agree with this but this is her child, who am I to say how she is raised. You can only hope that she grows up to be a well adjusted adult, who is caring, loving and understanding, it would be interesting to see how she develops and handles adulthood compared to those who that have had the typical upbringing.


  • I know that many people with disagree with this approach because they find this approach shocking. I disagree, because the damage overusing technology is doing to your child’s brain is really scary. The lack of sleep is also really damaging. We only get one brain and your child will be around long after you, do you really want to give them the gift of dementia or another neurological condition? It also affects your child’s ability to learn. It’s not that they can’t learn later in life, its that it is MUCH harder for them.


  • I’ve read many times that children do better when they have boundaries. This is going in the opposite direction, so it will be interesting to see how this young lady copes as an adult.


  • Wow! Not an approach I would ever consider, not sure about not attending school though – lack of routine or structure might make adult life a bit difficult.


  • Wow, see I think parents like these don’t deserve kids. This child is not going to know what hit her when she has to join the real world. How is she ever going to get a job? She’s not really learning useful life skills there, not like she can rock up to training and say ‘no, I don’t want to do that today’.


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