Let her suggest names and you will look at what she has given but no o e should name a baby bar it’s parents

My baby my choice and not anyone else.

If this was my husband I would be telling him when him and Will have a baby ….
they can both decide on the baby’s name together
And until than Will doesn’t get a say

I understand your concern. The gifts were surely lovely… But naming a baby is one of your biggest life decision, not to be left up to someone else

I would be getting very worried about my marriage if this happened to me. Do hope everything all works out for you, but feel it might be a tough road to ride for quite a while.

Anyone else wonder if a time will come when the husband leaves his wife for his best friend Will? This behaviour suggests to me that they are more than best friends but haven’t quite come to terms with it yet. Otherwise why on earth would he agree to Will’s outrageous demand? This mum is definitely not the a**hole here.

Wow, this is a hill that I would die on. Your husband and friend are way out of line and completely disrespecting your boundaries.

You are definitely not in the wrong. Your husband is being a bit too caring about his friends feelings and not yours. You should both agree on a name that you choose. His friend should see about adopting a child and using the name he’s picked for them.

No! The a-holes are your husband and Will. Whatever happened to boundaries. This should be between you and your husband. You don’t owe Will anything. And you certainly don’t need any added stress during your pregnancy. Geez!

I feel like the friendship is has now gone too far, beyond comfortable to really awkward!
This friend needs to take a step back, give this couple some space! It’s not like they’re his surrogate carriers of his child!!
I think he might need to seek counselling.

It’s concerning the husband agreed to the name without first consulting with his wife amd mother to his baby. Get that the sentiment is there but mum and dad are supposed to be a team and choosing the name is a joint decision… but agreeing to a name without talking to mum first, chasing after the mate and then not coming home until the next day? That’s being the a*hole.

Confused to why the friend even thinks he should have an input to a child he did not help make?

I’m confused as to why the friend has taken it upon himself to name the baby and why the husband is backing his friend. Very confusing and unusual set of circumstances for the wife and not something most people would expect to be dealing with.

Not the a hole. It’s one thing to ask, it’s another to allow it to cause a major rift. I think allowing the baby to be named by him is opening up a door that could be impossible to close, and end up in ruining your relationship, you husband and his mates relationship, or both

This is actually a bit weird… I understand Will is your husbands best friend and it’s sad that he cant have children but I feel like he is definitely over stepping the boundary of friendship here and your husband should be pulling him up on it……. but he’s not…..

I don’t get why husbands seem to be taking the side of others over their partners/wives when it’s your decision or life

Stick to your guns! This is your baby, not his.!

Some red flags unfortunately and I feel is interest is too intense. I would not let him decide the name of the child to be born.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Yep, the infertile friend is crossing lines and husband should stand beside his wife

He can get a pet and name it whatever he wants, or he and one of his future partners can look into adoption and name the baby, or use a donor… there is absolutely no reason anyone should be naming a baby except the people having or raising the baby from birth! If you feel the need to compromise maybe use it as a middle name, if you don’t absolutely hate it. But you also shouldn’t be in this position to need to compromise in the first place

That’s not small that’s big. Naming your child is a big deal. Maybe middle name if you like the name but it’s wasn’t kind of the friend to put you it this position.