A middle-aged woman is calling on one of her eight children to foot the bill of her $10,000 ‘mummy makeover’ claiming it’s a return on her investment in her now successful child.
Her 32-year-old daughter has taken to the internet asking if she’s in the wrong for refusing to pay for her mum’s plastic surgery.
“Soon after graduation and before I even started my current job my mum, who is now 57, asked me to help with elective cosmetic surgeries,” the woman explained.
“I told her I can pay up to 3k but that’s about it. The issue is she helped put me through school sending me some of her government assistance etc. which was extremely helpful to a broke college adult. Yet, accepting her assistance gave me soooooo much anxiety, because when I would say, ‘Thank you I truly appreciate the help’ her reply 100% of the time was always, ‘Don’t worry I’ll get a return on my investment’ . Even typing that reply gives me serious anxiety I can’t explain it.”
Now the woman says her mum is wanting to cash in on her ‘investment’ as she considers having thousands of dollars worth of elective, cosmetic surgery.
“So now she’s seeking her return. She wants about 10k worth of a new body! I’m the only successful kid of eight siblings and I’m in the middle. Literally all my siblings are broke and have some sort of addiction. I didn’t create the body she has alone, me and my seven other siblings did!
“She’s been gaslighting me like crazy: ‘You promised you would pay for everything, you promised me that it wouldn’t be an issue etc’ and honestly I almost believed it until I reminded her there’s no way I can say that when I know my savings is at zero dollars and zero cents! I’m starting over from scratch! I’m light years behind where I want to be if I want to retire comfortably.
“She’s throwing in my face how I have enough money to travel (I’m doing very cheap budget weekend traveling once a month, I’m talking bus, motel stays, etc ) but not enough help my own mother with something, ‘I promised her’.”
The woman says she’s realised that her relationship with her mum is transactional.
“When I was about 10 or so in school during Mother’s Day week we made cards. I gave my mum a handmade card, when she opened it she looked me straight in the eyes and said, ‘The next time you give me a card please have money in it, at least a dollar’ and I remember saying something along the lines of, ‘I don’t have any money’ or like I don’t have a job and she said, ‘Well until you get a job I don’t need anymore cards’ and since then I have neverrrrrrr given someone an empty card.
“Since my first job at 16 I’d give her all money and she’d allow me to keep a set amount. Never seeing a cent of my dad’s child support either.
“I’m trying to figure out now if I want to keep buying her love or go low contact or now contact.”
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Ellen replied
- 01 Sep 2023 , 8:09 am
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