One of the cardinal rules of having a baby (at least in my rule-book) is never to share your baby’s name before they are born.

I’m a bit superstitious about things like that so when I was pregnant I remained completely silent if anyone asked for name details.

Opinions and More Opinions

As it is, people have advice about literally everything:

“Don’t give birth unless it’s ‘natural’.”
“Demand that your doctor gives you a caesarian.”
“You HAVE to breastfeed no matter what.”
“Seriously, don’t even bother giving the boobie – just go straight to bottle.”
“Cloth nappies are the only way to go – you do love the environment don’t you?”
“Geez, are you a hippie? Stock up on boxes of disposables.”

What A Name!

It’s enough to drive you crazy with confusion. Now just imagine throwing a name into the mix and you can imagine the cacophony of criticism.

“Oooh, that’s an i-n-t-e-r-e-s-t-i-n-g name?”
“Hmmm..how do you spell that?”
“That’s exactly what I want to name my child!”

If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say, DON’T Say It!

But one new mum-to-be was so excited about her upcoming arrival that she didn’t consider the consequences of blabbing her bub’s name.

She shared her baby’s name with her grandmother and was devastated when her nanna’s response was pretty rude. She reached out to the Mumsnet forum to gauge whether she should consider changing the baby’s name before it is born.

“Due with our baby girl in just a few weeks. It took us a long time to pick a name that will flow nicely with the middle name as well as the surname and a name we both love equally,” the mum shared.

“My nan texted me this morning and ask if we’ve picked a name yet so I told her that we have and told her the name we chose is Esmé.”

Didn’t Expect That!

She then wrote that her nanna’s response was definitely not what she expected.

“Her response was simply ‘such a weird name’. Nothing more, nothing less. I’m gobsmacked and don’t know what to say back.”

The mum continued asking whether she should consider other baby names.

“I know it doesn’t matter what others think about the name we chose for our baby girl but it really got me doubting myself and now I’m sat here worrying whether we picked the right name. Am I being unreasonable?”

Senior grey-haired woman wearing casual clothes and glasses skeptic and nervous, disapproving expression on face with crossed arms. negative person.


Many parents sympathised with the mum, saying that they too would be shocked by the grandmother’s reaction.

“People will comment if you tell them the name before baby arrives but hopefully have the decency to keep it to themselves once it’s a done deal,” one said.

“I’m sure it is a generational thing with grandma, mine is the same, any name she hears that is not the standard Mary/John she thinks it’s strange. I wouldn’t be getting into an argument with an old lady about it though,” another suggested.

Stick With It!

Many said that they thought her name choice was lovely and she should definitely not change it.

“This is my daughter’s name, and I think the name is absolutely beautiful. People are just so rude, no one should have any opinion on anyone’s name,” one mum said.

“Esme is a beautiful name, not weird at all. It’s pretty, suits a baby and a grown-up, I think of a successful, kind woman,” reassured another.

Did you share your baby’s name before they were born? Did you get any unexpected reactions? Tell us in the comments below.

  • It is so difficult!
    Everyone has a an opinion and it is so annoying when everyone wants to share theirs.
    But don’t forget, it is your choice not theirs.


  • I will just ignore what other tell about my choice.


  • Don’t second guess what you want to call your Daughter Esme is a Great name .As long as you & your partner love the name then your Grandmother just has to live with it . l think it’s totally Rude of her she should off kept her opinion to herself . You look at little Esme and be Proud of her and her Name


  • Esme is a beautiful name and not one that she can be teased over. I’m wondering if there was a different reason than the name itself that caused your Nanna’s reaction. It doesn’t matter though. If you and your partner love the name then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Don’t question yourself and just look forward to welcoming your daughter into your world. Congratulations by the way


  • If the name you have chosen isn’t going to cause the child embarrassment or grief (eg funny spelling) then go for it.


  • Esme is a lovely name. I wouldn’t think it strange with the older generation as it’s by no means a modern name. Maybe that’s what she thought was unusual? Anyway if you love it keep it!


  • Ugh! You’re child you can name it whatever you like. We told our names before birth but didn’t care if it was liked by anyone or not.


  • Don’t you worry about your gran’s opinion or concern that you now make a mistake ! Naming the child is really only up to yourself and your partner.


  • Everyone has their own opinion but you do what is right for you. A name has a personal meaning to you and no one else should interfere.


  • No I didn’t. As for people screwing up their noses at someone’s child’s name, let them. They are entitled to their thoughts. Don’t lose sleep over it. Your child, your business.


  • I don’t think I shared it. We had a list going for both genders, but I’m not too sure if we did discuss it with others. I was sick the entire 9 months so I think I had other things on my mind. You only need to please yourself and your husband, noone else.


  • Didn’t tell anyone names or the gender! People always comment unnecessarily so I would prefer just not to share really intimate details


  • We didn’t keep our names a secret but we changed them both closer to the date as both times we weren’t really sure of the first name but no-one ever said anything negative even though some probably thought it.


  • It’s your choice, not grandmother’s choice. I think that whatever name you choose, there will be people who love it and people who don’t like it.


  • What a rude response. I think she should ignore gran.


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