I think good on him for speaking up. His mother effectively ruined his life with his name and he wants to stop that happening to his niece.

I think Crystal is a reasonable name but the spelling is going to be a headache for her as she grows up and good on your for pointing it out. I hope your sister doesn’t cut you off though.

Maybe calling her a shitty parent was a bit off, but I do think giving the benefit of your experience to inform her on choosing her child’s name was a good thing to do.

You are a wonderful uncle for standing up for your niece. When you have difficult names or spellings, you spend so mucb time correcting people that it gets to the point of embarrasment at times…nothing to take pride in from my view

No, I don’t think your response was shitty. I applaud your strength in standing up for your future niece. I am like you, I hated the name I was given and was upset with my parents because they listened to someone else who gave them the name. And rightly so, as you said, she will have to grow up and live with it until the day she dies or changes it, which I am in the process of doing.
I say, good for you and don’t apologise, because you have nothing to apologise for. Standing up for someone who is being marginalised is not bad behaviour. By the sounds of it, your mother interferes too much and gets her way. Your sister, well she hasn’t got a mind of her own and really needs to think about the name she is giving her child, because children can be mean and cruel and believe me, over the years they haven’t changed, it’s classic human nature to taunt, tease and bully someone, I feel for your niece. Hopefully, your sister will change the name for the sake of her child and the future treatment she will receive by such a ridiculously spelt name. Go for gold man! I like your style.

When you have a name that is unusual you will spend your whole life spelling it and correcting it – and with all the papers one has to fill out for Birth, Deaths & Marriages, and other government required documents, the worst thing a parent can do is give someone an unusual name or spelling of the name. If the departments get it wrong, you are out on a limb with a long way to fall.

It is definitely horrible and using her child as an accessory. But as her brother, it is a fine line of how to say things and whether or not to repeat them before they shut down and ignore you or cut you off.

I can’t believe they’ve come up with such a stupid name for their daughter. If they wanted different spelling of the name Krystal would have been better. What the x’s stand for I don’t know but it does make for a shi**ty life ahead for their daughter.

The x’s don’t make any sense at all- maybe they should learn how to spell?

h, they may have been going a bit far with the shi33y parent comment, but they are spot on with the ridiculous name.

Good luck explaining the girl the spelling when she gets to school. Uncle was bit harsh but he has a point. Beautiful name, why spell it like that?

I agree that the spelling of that name is atrocious, and cruel to the child. But maybe he could have been a bit more tactful in bringing it up?

A nice name but the spelling is too much. Even I struggled to figure out what it was. So no I don’t think he was being unreasonable to say something.

One needs to name a child so the poor child doesn’t have to *spell out* their name every time someone asks. And imagine reading the roll … ‘Krix stixl?!!’

I agree with you on the name. Alternate spellings are fine! My eldest child’s name is spelt phonetically, because with the traditional spelling it’s literally one letter that changes the name from ‘line’ to ‘lin’ and if I need to read a name twice to work out what it is I’m not going to choose that spelling! My son’s name can be spelt a variety of ways “eu” “ue” or just “u”. It’s a common name but nobody spells it the same. I literally had to recheck the baby book I got it from to see the correct spelling after he was born… anyway. The letters in their names make sense! They make the sound they are supposed to! I don’t see how ‘x’ replaces the sounds in crystal? So the name itself does seem very wrong, in that sense and I agree traditional spelling is what’s needed here!
But you most definitely did over step the mark by insulting her as a parent based on something so trivial! I think your parents screwed you over, and you have good intentions on your nieces name. But you clearly need to get some sort of therapy with your parents! It sounds like you absolutely hate who they are.
At the end of the day it is your sister’s choice. Her daughter may change the spelling of her name when older or she may even love the uniqueness of it. It will be life time of spelling it and correcting the spelling but it really has nothing to do with you. Unless the child comes to you complaining about how miserable her life is because of it. Good luck on the whole situation.

No one is entitled to comment and be critical of a choice that has nothing to do with them.

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  • • MrsJReilly replied
    • 25 Mar 2023 , 8:50 am

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  He’s speaking out from experience with having a name that has literally had an impact on his life – he was bullied and it has affected his professional life. He’s just looking out for his niece. The spelling is ridiculous!!

Personally I think it’s totally up to the mum & dad to be to name their child. When the mum to be wants to involve her mother into picking the name and her husband agrees with that, then that’s totally up to them. Personally I don’t think the brother has a say in that. He could have shared just his experience, but going into an argument about it ? no !

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 23 Mar 2023 , 7:30 am

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  I agree, family are not entitled to cross the line!

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    • • Ellen replied
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    Yes ! And personally I wouldn’t think about discussing the name with family members whatsoever, none of their business

I honestly can’t believe the kind of names and lengths people are going to these days just to give their babies a different name. Seriously…

I don’t think the sister is doing the kid any favours but maybe she needs to hear him out and think about it, although from the way he describes her and his parents its not going to go anywhere.
Its all about the parent being pretentious and not about the child’s future life issues.

I agree that the name is awful, but it’s not his call unfortunately.