It sounds like something that deserves to be on a Jerry Springer show, but it’s actually a reality for a couple who met when they were teens. One dad worries that his son is engaged to his step-daughter, and it’s causing problems in their family.
“My son and step daughter recently revealed to me and my wife that they have been dating secretly all this time and that they’re engaged and that they plan on getting married and starting a family. They also said that they did not tell us sooner because they were afraid of how I would react.”
His 27-year-old son, and 26-year-old step daughter, met back when they were 16 and 15. He shared, “To be honest, something like this happening was a concern for me because they were both teenagers and wouldn’t see each other as siblings but they got along well so I forgot about it.”
The two hit it off and started secretly dating, “They said they started dating a few months after they met and have continued till now.”
“I also know that both of they went colleges in 2 cities very far from each other so they somehow still kept the relationship alive. When they were in college they would only meet whenever they came back for the holidays and I remember that they both were more happy to see each other than us, all of this explains it. They would also go out together “shopping” or “just to see the city” alone. They were other instances which made a lot more sense now. They both live in a different city, my wife and I thought they lived separately but they actually have been living together for 2 years now,” he continued.
While it was a little hard to comprehend at first, the father feels that he should support them, understanding why they kept it a secret, “I am happy for them as long as they are happy. My wife on the other hand was a different story, she went completely ballistic. She started screaming that it’s disgusting and that they’re siblings and this is incest. My step daughter started crying and my son just took her by the hand and left our home.”
While he is accepting of his son’s relationship, his wife is demanding that he break them up and make them date other people, “My wife wants me to somehow convince them to break up and date other people. All I said was ‘They met when they were 16 and 15. They don’t see each other as siblings. If we oppose this, they will hate us forever and I’m sure that they would rather stop talking to us forever than breakup.'”
He is refusing to break them up, knowing the consequence will probably be the couple disowning their parents, “Even I am a little uncomfortable by this but I understand and there really isn’t much I can do. I love my son and step daughter and I know they would disown us if we opposed this.”
Sadly, this has caused problems in the relationship between him and his wife, “My wife is angry now and hasn’t really talked to me ever since this happened.”
Do you think he should step in? Or support their relationship?