Ear piercings in babies is one of those hot topics that people are either for or against, and in this instance those two kinds of people happen to be married to each other.

A new dad has shared that his wife took his daughter to get her ears pierced without telling him, and he’s not very happy about it at all.

He shared, “My wife and I have a two month old daughter, Alicia. We’ve been having the piercing debate since before she was born.”

In some cultures, particularly Spain or Latin America, it’s very common to pierce a baby’s ears within a few days or even months of being born. The new dad shared that his is common in his wife’s culture too, “She comes from a culture where it’s the normal thing, but I’m just not comfortable with a painful process like that and would prefer to wait until she’s older so she can choose whether to go through that for herself.”

While the new dad went out, his wife spent the day with his family and returned with some new baby bling, “While we still hadn’t made a decision, my wife went for a day with her family with the baby while I had a few things I needed to sort out. When I got home the first thing I noticed was that Alicia had a pair of gold studs.”

The frustrated father spoke up, “I demanded to know what had happened and she said they decided to “make a day of it” and just get them done. I felt pure rage and immediately removed the earrings and threw them away. This enraged my wife and she said removing them was totally disrespectful.”

After pulling out the earrings from his 2-month-old, the couple’s relationship got a little bit rocky, “She slept in the spare room last night and isn’t speaking to me at all.”

The new dad is standing his ground though, adamant he did the right thing, “As far as I’m concerned I did the right thing. She got them pierced without asking me (or more importantly, ASKING ALICIA), so I took them out, because our baby doesn’t need bits of metal sticking out of her ears.”

Did he go too far? Or was it wrong to get them pierced in the first place?

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  • This should be a decision by both parents. Not one


  • I would she feel if he didn’t get approval from her on something, especially something/someone you both share. I’d be questioning my relationship.. what else could she do without letting me know or approving.


  • I personally think babies are way to little to have their ears pierced, I think it’s a decision for both parents to discuss and decide, my husband and I have 2 daughters and when my oldest daughter is 20 she asked when she was 7 and we both agreed she had a few problems but good now and our 2nd daughter who is 11 just asked before xmas for hers to be pierced so I we think leave it up to them and let them ask when they are ready.


  • It’s never right to go behind your partners back. I understand his anger here. But taking them out would have hurt his daughter even more. Her tiny ears would have already been so sore and he probably took them out while angry and not gently. I feel bad for the baby here. The two adults need to grow up and not play games. What’s done is done, there is more chance of the holes getting infected with no earring inside it while it is healing. I was on the dads side at first but now I’m angry with the dad after reading what he did. Two wrongs don’t make a right.


  • This is a decision that should be made together. I think she did the wrong thing and was probably influenced more since she went with her family and didn’t even think about what her husband would say. Hopefully they work things out and little Alicia isn’t caught between the two of them.


  • I think its a decision that needs to be made together, if you can’t agree together dont do it until you can. Its not really a massive thing in the end though. Not something worth separating over.


  • Totally unfair to go against the other persons wishes


  • Needs to be a joint decision. The mum needs to respect the father’s opinions and vice versa


  • I don’t think this is a big deal.


  • Regardless of whether the baby should have ears pierced or not –
    So many of these things should be worked out prior to any action being taken. It surprises me that this couple have so little respect for each other and seeing each others point of view. For goodness sake – talk to each other, listen compromise and respect.


  • Ouch…. It should have been a joint decision or atleast have his consent before doing the piercing.


  • The wrong thing to do especially as the wife knew her husband’s feelings about this. Guess it will be a long time before peace will be in that household.


  • Yes, good on you dad. It is your baby daughter as well and you have a right to be considered in what is right for your child. Your wife did the wrong thing and should have shown respect for your wishes and more importantly that of your girl Alicia. Your daughter should be given the opportunity to make her own decision whether she wants her ears pierced as she may grow up and decide she doesn’t want that. Any procedure on a person should not be done against their will or wishes as the person should be given the opportunity to make an informed decision before they enter into any procedure on themselves. I support the father’s anger and actions. I would have done the same if it were my child.


  • She should never have done it behind his back. It shows total disregard for him as a father. When there are two parents there should be discussion – not I’ll do what I want anyway


  • Personally I think it’s disgusting getting a babies ears pierced. I certainly wouldn’t do it. Having said that, a lot of people do do it.


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