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I’m not really a very religious person – except for when I look at my children, at everything I am surrounded by – food, a roof above our heads and I can’t help but believe that there is something far greater, a much higher power, blessing me unconditionally and without judgement.

It has to be without judgement because goodness knows that I am so far from deserving of everything that I have been blessed with.

When I was young I would attend a variety of places of worship with friends, belonging to different religious denominations, although not so much now.

Of course, I pray and give thanks, but today I would be doing so with a ferocity I hadn’t felt in I can’t even remember how long.

My World Was Almost Destroyed!

Picture the most glorious Saturday morning.

The kids are playing outside. Their laughter and happy voices fill the air.

My husband was getting his motorbike ready to go to work.

He was looking forward to riding in because he usually drives, but riding is something he is passionate about.

I was multitasking, shopping online, doing the laundry and watching the kids when my husband’s boss called and said he would need to drive his car in to work.

No Bike Today!

It was hard not to feel my husband’s disappointment especially after he had put a great deal of time and effort into getting his bike ready!

He left for work without saying goodbye to the children – they were all so busy and he didn’t want to disrupt their fun.

I told him how gorgeous he smelled as he walked out the door and I don’t even remember if we kissed goodbye because I was trying to work out what fragrance he had used… and if he had tipped the entire bottle on himself, or just half.

Our two year old was the only one to catch a glimpse of him and yell “Bye bye Daddy, come home soon” just as I was closing the door.

Where Is That ^&^%* Towel?

I was searching for his dirty towel from his morning shower angrily when I received the call from him. I hate having to search for laundry!

“Where the heck have you hidden your towel!” is how I answered his call.

He laughed… and then he told me he had been in an accident.

A lady was speeding and failed to stop at the red light… and t-boned his car.

Had he ridden into work, would we even be fortunate enough to be speaking to each other?

My eyes started to burn and well with tears. But I wasn’t about to break down on the phone.

Wow! Someone Is Watching Over Us

I told him that I couldn’t imagine the outcome had he been on his bike, how very blessed we are that it all worked out the way that it did. And just how incredible it is that everyone was able to walk away from that with their lives.

No matter how well we prepare for things, not everything always goes to plan. As disappointing as it may seem at the time, it helps to try and put circumstances into perspective.

Sometimes amazing plans fall apart, so that better things can fall together.

Puts Everything In Perspective

Today I prayed so hard, thanking whoever is looking over us for sparing my family from the devastation that could have been.

If we are fortunate enough, the people we love are still with us.

… on a side note I really need to re-evaluate the petty things I get upset about. Sure, I still haven’t found that towel, but does it even matter?

Have you had one of those heart-wrenching moments when you realised that your world could have shattered if things had happened differently? Tell us in the comments below.

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  • It certainly makes you think. When my youngest was 11 months old, I was driving home after a shopping trip and was 10 kms from home, when a rear tyre blew and the wheels locked when I put on the brakes. The car rolled 5 – 6 times and ended up an embankment. There was blood pouring from my sons head and luckily a couple of young guys saw the car and raced to help us. They took us straight to the hospital which was only 5 minutes away but unfortunately never left their names so I was unable to personally thank them. I know someone was looking out for us because of what the police told me later. The car was on a sharp bend and the police said the car never crossed over the lines, because of the car seat my son was in the blood was just from surface cuts. If he’d been in a different car seat he would have been killed because the glass went half way through the sides of the head of the carseat, my handbag fell out of the car and a truck driver dropped it into the police station and everything was still there. My son just ended up with surface cuts to his scalp that you can’t notice and I just ended up with a slight dent in the top of my right leg. I’m just so glad that we had a guardian angel with us that day.

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  • certainly doe make us re thin what is important.

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  • I think if he had taken his bike he would have avoided the accident altogether, as he would have had to put the bike away and get the car keys etc making him leave later than he should have planned.

    But I do totally get it! I was in an accident some months ago. My eldest was in the back of the car when we were rear ended. If my car hadn’t been angled to turn the corner, it could have been a very different story. In fact 30 seconds probably would have meant somebody would have died as my car was hit with enough force that it was pushed into oncoming traffic. A (thankfully heavy) truck was slow at taking off from the lights so managed to stop. Had he gotten started he would have surely killed my child. I kept the car in a position that I felt would give her the best chance as the truck would have hit me full on. And what still haunts me now, months later is when I sat there waiting for the truck to hit us and possibly kill us I never called out “I love you” to my daughter. If I hadn’t come to a stop as the lights changed it would have been the woman who hit me that would have possibly been killed, along with her child, in the accident by the truck.
    On top of that my husband also had his car written off just a week ago! He too was stopped at an intersection when he was slammed into by a car doing 70k/ph. It was enough force that his car hit the one in front of him hard enough to move that car, resulting in a 4 car pileup!
    Amazingly in both accidents, my husband and I were the only ones to be injured and we both got whiplash at the worst! Both cars are easily replaced but lives are not!

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  • Thank you for sharing and thank goodness everything was ok.

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  • No the towel doesn’t matter, but also sometimes it’s ok to get upset by the dirty towel. We are only humna

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  • An interesting story teach us a lesson.

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  • Luck was truly on his side that day! It’s amazing how one quick decision can change the outcome

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  • Mum always says never leave after an argument until you’ve resolved it and are ok again as you’d never want your last words to be bad ones, so true


    • Yes ! Don’t let anger control you or let the sun go down while you are still angry

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  • Fifteen years ago on a beautiful morning my then fourteen year old daughter took her horse for a ride around the property where we were living. About an hour after she had left my neighbours ten year old son was banging on my front door and yelling at me to come quickly because my daughter had had a bad fall and his mum was with her and they were waiting for an ambulance. My daughter was taken to the local hospital then later transferred to the children’s hospital in Melbourne with a C2 spinal fracture. Thanks to the quick thinking of my neighbour and professional care of the paramedics and hospital staff, my daughter made a full recovery and was back riding her horses twelve months later. Something has to have been looking out for her, that fall could have been a death sentence

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  • I must admit that in the 35+ years of my husband and I being together, there has never been a time when we haven’t kissed and said ‘I love you’ as we have parted for work or whatever. These days it is even more needed as he is ill and could die anytime. He also will not leave the house without a parting kiss and ‘I love you’ and also every evening going to sleep.

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  • There is a God and he cares about us intimately. We can’t always see the bigger picture and it may not always seem fair, but one day we will understand and our eyes will be opened to see that He held us every time we cried.


    • Amen Angel chick, I agree with you !

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  • I ensure “I love you” are the last words I say to my kids and my husband whenever we part. Sounds silly, but I feel like it’s armouring me against regrets.

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  • I would have been just as annoyed regardless of it was a missing towel or coffee table full of snack rubbish and empty soft drink cans. We are all guilty of occasionally not saying goodbye and this just yells at me to always take the time to tell my husband and children I love them whenever they leave my sight. The most important thing is that they come back to me. But if tragedy strikes (I pray to god it doesn’t) then I want them to know they are loved, and it would give me peace to have said it

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  • Yes these events put things into perspective but everything is relevant, feelings and emotions are relevant. Just because someone has it worse or something bad might happen doesn’t take away from the day to day feelings and frustrations we have.

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  • And yes, just because I wanted a water birth and had to book in a different hospital, I had a scan 2 weeks early which resulted in an emergency section. Would I have come 2weeks later for the planned section, my daughter wouldn’t have made it. God’s hand was upon her, from that I’m convinced.

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