If traditional baby showers aren’t for you, one expecting mum has come up with a brilliant (and super helpful) alternative that’s being applauded by thousands of other pregnant women.

It’s called a ‘nesting party’ and instead of games and gifts of a traditional baby shower, it involves guests working through a list of household chores for the expecting mum. Genius!

Mum Nia Lui, who just gave birth to her third baby, shared her nesting party on TikTok, revealing that she’s not a fan of baby showers and decided to do something far more helpful for herself.

“I don’t like baby showers. I don’t like being the centre of attention,” she explained. “I don’t like playing dumb games. I just don’t. I don’t. And this is our third baby. So we have everything. We basically don’t need a lot besides diapers and wipes.

“So, I told my best friend that instead of her planning a baby shower for me, she could plan a nesting party for me, where we can just get things done.”

“So I had my nesting party last night instead of a baby shower and it was amazing,” she said. “My friend Bree organised it. I sent her a list of things that I wanted to get done before the baby came, and she made little cards for each person to take to take on a section of the house.

“I kind of took on more of a supervisory role, kind of telling people where I wanted things and what I wanted to do with things. We took a dinner break, ate some soup, some sourdough bread and treats, and just chatted about this baby and how it’s going to be.

“We got so much done and it just made me feel so at peace in my own home. And (it was) way better than a baby shower.”

@nialui21 Replying to @Haley Sheppard Every pregnant mom needs a nesting party. If you’re pregnant and don’t want a baby shower, do this. If you have a pregnant friend, do this for them! #nestingparty #nestingmom #nestingmode #pregnantmom #pregnancy #babyshower #nestingmama #thirdtrimester #ittakesavillage #myvillage @Bri Welcker ♬ original sound – Nia Lui

The creative ‘party’ sparked lots of discussion in the comments section of Nia’s videos.

“Girl stop lying you just needed food and your house cleaned. You’re as bad as those people begging for money,” one person commented.

“Nah my husband can clean the house and cook. Me and my girls will be eating fabulous food, drinking champagne and celebrating me,” said another.

But there were plenty of people who loved the idea.

“Honestly I’d prefer doing this to sitting for three hours watching someone open presents.”

“I would SO rather do this than play games with strangers I don’t know.”

“This is a true village and I love everything about it.”

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  • No thanks, not an idea or concept that even slightly interests me. Would not want anyone else tidying or sorting my home.


  • I love this idea better than a baby shower. You get your house cleaned an no-one has to spend any money (unless they want to). Love it, love it, love it!


  • Oh I love that!! How about a…I have a 2 year old, work and have no time to clean party? Haha

    Honestly helping someone with the chores is much more
    valuable in my opinion!


  • I actually think this is a better idea. I only had a baby shower because my friends wanted me to celebrate. I was so overwhelmed the entire time.


  • Wow! What next? I do prefer this over a baby shower, but think this is another fad, extreme. Why should we expect anyone to contribute to our preparation to having a baby — gifts or otherwise?

    • It most certainly shouldn’t be an expectation I think


  • Thanks for your sharing.


  • I personally couldn’t ask friends and family to do that but I didn’t have a baby shower for any of my kids either.

    • No I didn’t have baby showers for any of my kids either

      • We did not either, no interest and independent in every possible way.


  • I was told baby showers were only for first babies. I wouldn’t have either. I’m too independent, if I can’t do it/get it for myself, it doesn’t get done or doesn’t get got.. simple.


  • It’s a very practical idea- handmade frozen meals would also be great.

    • Yes for sure ! I didn’t have baby showers for any of my kids but a group of friends organised dinner for 10 days, which was lovely :)


  • I think it’s a great idea. Some helping hands accompanied with fun can make the load light.


  • Oh for god’s sake!


  • It depends who you are and what your comfortable with. No I wouldn’t be comfortable with people going through my pantry etc…to help me clean unless it’s my mother or sister.


  • I love the idea of a nesting party, and I don’t see it as ‘as bad as begging people for money’. This is a lovely gesture to someone who is probably so swollen and can’t bend down far enough to deep clean the way they would like to. I loved hunting out bargains and op shopping for everything my baby needed so didn’t need anyone to buy me gifts. And by the time I was about to pop, my house was organised how I wanted it but I definitely wouldn’t have hated someone with energy to do a thorough sweep and mop for me. We’d all be lucky to have people in our lives who would work hard for us, not just throw $100 our way.


  • Oh – I can imagine many times in my life that a nesting party would be wonderful. Can I have one now that I am finally coming to grips with the loss of my wonderful husband. So hard to go through all the cupboards and decide what stays and what goes to where or who.

    • Oh bless you, I can only imagine !


  • Being a third baby who wants to have an ordinary baby shower. If you are okay with people going through you cupboards why not have a nesting party. It is a brilliant idea because it helps mum and baby showers are not for everyone


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