We all set goals for different things all of the time, but especially when it comes to our health, whether are losing weight or simply wanting to get fitter.
A common mistake we make when setting goals is doing so from outside and not within. Often our goals are based on what we think is expected of us rather than what lines up with our true values.
Only goals that align with what we truly value will be powerful enough to become a driving force in our lives.
Take weight loss for example. Many people are hoping and wanting to lose weight, but often the goal is so often driven by external pressure. You may feel pressure from your GP, partner, mother, sister or any other friend or family member. You may feel pressure to look or appear a certain way in order to fit the expectations of our society.
You may have been told that unless you lose weight, get healthier, or improve your fitness then you are at risk of some form of illness. None of these are likely to be powerful goals because they are all coming from outside.
The first step to take when goal setting is to think about how a certain goal is matching with your personal values, ignoring what perceived expectations there are from others.
If weight loss is the goal or improving fitness is the goal, make sure you are clear on why you want to achieve this goal. It needs to be your goal based on your own values.
Building Strength Within
That doesn’t mean that all good goals are selfish goals. Many good goals in life are also selfless in nature, but they still match your own values and are not based on pressure from outside. An example may be someone aiming to improve health in order to increase energy for the purpose of giving more to those around you. Although it seems you are doing this for someone else, it’s closely aligned to your own values and is coming from within.
When you next think about your goals, whether that’s health, fitness or anything in life, consider where your goals are coming from- inside or outside. Powerful goals come from within.
Do you feel external pressure to set goals? Let us know in the comments.