Rachael Finch: "Only the parents of a child truly know what is best"

Over the weekend Rachael Finch caused some controversy by telling the world that her daughter spends every weekend with her husbands mother and now, she has hit back at the critics in a post on social media.

Rachael, who is married to dancer Michael Miziner, has admitted that they have Friday and Saturday nights child free while Violet, 2, stays with Michael’s mother.

During the week the couple take turns to care for Violet, alternating around their work schedules. Then from Friday night to Sunday morning they have time to themselves while Grandma takes over.

Since the article was published in Sunday Style, the model mum has received a heap of criticism from followers with some of the comments reading:

“to b honest this would anger a lot of ppl, if u can’t have alone time then don’t have children this was a very naive statement from Rachael having a family means no alone time stupid girl”

“how anyone could want to spend that much time away from their child is beyond me”

“It astounds me that this is the person The Herald Sun chose to profile for their Mother’s Day edition. There are so many other working celebrity mums who relish every spare moment they have when they aren’t working to spend time with their children. They are the ones that should be celebrated.”

“Don’t have kids if you aren’t prepared to be a mother.”

Another saying “There’s alone time and then there’s only seeing your child on a Sunday? Whaaaat?”

Rachael responded with the following post

In amongst the negativity there were some positive comments, with one commenter saying:

“I’m a SAHM of 5 children and my 2 eldest boys go to my parents house every Thursday night and every 2nd weekend. How does a child spending regular time with there grandparents make you a bad mother? I’m confused? @rachael_finch I guarantee half these hater don’t work the hours you work. We are mum and we all do what works for us ☺️. Ps love the pic.”

With another saying “I cannot believe people are taking time to post nasty horrible things! Get a life!! Everybody parents differently NO ONE has the right to judge a mother. You do what works for you and that’s that.”

“I grew up going to my grandparents most weekends & I LOVED it! For many cultures grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins all help to raise a child. She isn’t leaving her child in the car to go and play the pokies!”

“Wow can people really be hating on a woman who is putting her family first? Has no one heard of “it takes a village to raise a child”?!. I absolutely commend @rachael_finch for being open and honest. I 100% use my mum and sister regularly to help me with my 3 small children. My children have the most adorable relationship with them and regularly ask to go on holidays and for sleepovers as well. I believe this is making confident children who are comfortable within them selves and trusting of their parents judgement. Seriously life is tough enough without having keyboard warriors. Good work Rachel. You’re doing a great job x”

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14 Comments

- - damish70 said
  - 12 May 2016
    8:41 pm
I’m all for kids spending time with their grandparents but every weekend in my opinion seems too frequent. What about family time with both parents being there & not just the one? That’s important too

- - rachelvk said
  - 12 May 2016
    11:15 am
I can understand why she is being defensive; every family is different and we shouldn’t judge. Personally I could not be away from my little ones for that long and so often but each to their own.

- - Lori-Anne said
  - 11 May 2016
    9:42 pm
I think every weekend is a little much but maybe every second weekend. But that is my personal opinion.

- - kdc1972 said
  - 11 May 2016
    9:14 pm
Don’t we all go through phases in our lives? Maybe this is just a point in their lives where this arrangement works. Next year may be different. Hell, next week may be different!

- - june11 said
  - 11 May 2016
    8:27 pm
Basically their child is spending time with one parent, not both as a family as much as they should be. Although Grandma may not admit it, minding children as you get a bit older is tiring. I know of a Grandma who occasionally declined an invitation. She knew the parents didn’t want to take ther children where there may be alcohol. The family took the time to help with chores that they discovered were difficult for her that she would otherwise have paid a tradesman.

- - Nas01 said
  - 11 May 2016
    8:15 pm
Each to their own but I personally wouldn’t be sending my four kids to mums every weekend. Saturday and Sunday’s are strictly fanuky time at our house. Hubby and I do have a date night once every month or so and kids have sleep over at nans.

- - mom93821 said
  - 11 May 2016
    8:04 pm
Their family and their choice of parent style.
- mom93821 replied
  
  12 May 2016 , 6:27 am
  Also, we do not walk in anyone else’s shoes and do not know family dynamics and situations. Families do what works best for them and their child/ren.
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  - 11 May 2016
    8:03 pm
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- - mum4107 said
  - 11 May 2016
    7:26 pm
My thoughts are if it works for them, fantastic.
It is not something i would do

- - mom81879 said
  - 11 May 2016
    6:10 pm
My kids spent a lot of time with my mother in law growing up. They loved her dearly and she them. I know if I had the opportunity, I would want to spend as much time as possible with my grandson, but can’t due to distance. Stick to what you know is true Rachel, bugger the rest!

- - mom160421 said
  - 11 May 2016
    6:01 pm
My daughter had a very special relationship with my mother and I only wish they had spent more time together before my mother passed away.

- - Lizbef said
  - 11 May 2016
    5:37 pm
Good on her. Unless she is actually neglecting or endangering her child then it shouldn’t be a problem!

- - mom165081 said
  - 11 May 2016
    4:20 pm
Its good that this works for them at this point in time – truly hope they don’t take Grandmothers time for granted – many people do and I know of many Grandparents who cancel their own things to look after Grandkids – this is NOT ok. Once every few weekends, yes! Every single weekend – No! I have a friend who tells off the grandparents when they aren’t around to look after the grandkids – and she has always had the kids at Grans once a week…