A first-time-mum has revealed the list of eight rules she expects her family and friends to follow when they visit her newborn baby, and while most are commonsense, a couple have ruffled some feathers.

Maisie Crompton is expecting her first baby, so she decided to share the list of rules she has for those planning on meeting her little one after she’s given birth.

@maisie_crompton Seen so many of these videos… here’s my “rules for when I have a baby” ✍????????????#pregnancyjourney #rulesformybaby #trending #mumsunder21 ♬ original sound – Maisie

While most of the rules are pretty much to be expected, like not visiting if you’re sick, there are a couple that raised a few eyebrows after she shared them on TikTok.

Here are Maisie’s rules:

  1. Please don’t kiss the baby.
  2. No unannounced visitors, for first few days we want it just to be us
  3. Don’t announce our baby has arrived until we do (on social media or in person)
  4. No photos posted of the baby until we do.
  5. Do not come if you’re sick.
  6. Wash your hands before holding them.
  7. Do not ask to see the baby if you haven’t checked up on me during the pregnancy.
  8. If our baby cries please hand them back to me or their dad.

One person commented: “Great, but people might be scared to come near/see the baby eventually so you will miss out on memories made and baby bonding with wider family.”

“We had a family member do this with loads of rules, like you must come and do some chores etc. weirdly enough no one wants to baby sit their three-year-old,” replied another.

However, most of the comments were supportive, but there were plenty of expecting mums wondering how they could tactfully relay similar rules to their friends and family.

“A lot of people said they’d feel awkward giving their family and friends a list of rules to stick by, so this is how I actually intend on doing it.” Maisie explained, before sharing the following message that she’s sending to her family and friends:

“We would love you to come over and meet baby girl soon, you’ll have to let us know when you’re free. Just a quick one (we’re sending this to everyone who would love to visit us). Although she’s so cute please don’t kiss her due to risks like HSV and other illnesses. If you feel ill we would love you to visit another time instead and of course you can take as many photos as you like but please don’t post them without asking first.”

“If you usually smoke/have smoked in the past hours before meeting her please change your top before holding her.”

Did you have a set of rules for visitors when you had your baby? Let us know what they were in the comments below. 

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  • We had some rules as well…but we also expect people to use their common sense


  • Her baby her rules!


  • I never had any rules but I do agree with all of these except for No. 7. Maybe they didn’t come to visit because they wanted to leave you in peace. All the others are to protect the babies health. If it’s not your baby, you should respect the parents choices.


  • Their babies, their rules, pure and simple.


  • I understand wanting to have rules but hope it doesn’t affect the relationship people have with the baby.


  • I 100% agree with some of the rules. They should be common sense ir no kissing, not being sick and washing hands etc


  • The list seems a little over the top. I can understand the don’t kiss, wash hands, don’t come if you’re sick, and ring beforehand rules. I probably wouldn’t visit just to avoid doing something wrong.


  • I never had rules, but most people messaged one of us first before visiting as I was not well for quite some time afterwards.
    I see nothing wrong with those rules


  • No, I never thought of making rules back then. Now I think I would. First time mum is very stressful, let her do what she thinks is best


  • No, I didn’t have any rules but I understand things have changed so much in the past 20 years.


  • I don’t think these rules are over the top, although have my questions by rule 7


  • I ca understand why they set up these boundaries and most of them should be common sense. Not sure I understand the logic behind number 7 though


  • These rules are similar to mine, but there was no social media then. And nobody was offended when I explained when the phoned me that these rules were in place for my baby and my other children and us parents.


  • I think all these rules are reasonable and I see nothing wrong with them at all. If her family doesn’t want to respect them than they miss out on seeing baby.


  • Honestly, I’m totally on board with all of this. Number 7 is a bit meh – if you haven’t had contact with friends or family for 9 months that’s really not required. But I had all these rules in my chamber.


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