Some days the words don’t come, the water won’t boil and the traffic lights are all red.

These are the days when your coffee goes cold before you finish it. There are good things happening but you just can’t seem to appreciate them.

When all you can see are the bills and the work and you forget that there are things you love about what you do.

These are the days that the comfortable jeans suddenly seem too tight, or the tag in your favourite top start to dig into your neck. Usually those things haven’t change and it’s just that, for some weird reason, you just can’t get ‘on top’ today.

You wake up and see the day….showering, getting dressed, getting the kids dressed and fed. Dealing with life and all the chores. The floor needs vacuuming again. Surely I did that just the other day. Does it ever stop?

How can I do anything fabulous when there are so many things to do just to keep everything happening?

Cleaning, washing, bills, picking up after everyone, planning dinners, planning weekends, planning playdates and activities. Grocery shopping, dinner, dishes. Bother – I forgot about exercise! Don’t forget to fit in exercise!

Make sure you read with the kids, spend time playing at their level, be mindful, don’t forget they get too much technology time. Catch up with your friends and be there for your family. Be a good person, a good friend, a good wife and a good mother.

How do people find time to be anything else? Do you give up on being a good friend or a good mother? Maybe it is giving up on sleep that allows us to be all to everyone. That’s a problem for me; I don’t work well without sleep. These flat days usually follow a night where there was not much sleep.

When I don’t sleep I wake up feeling overwhelmed by life. My brain is too tired to function on the usual level and every single task becomes a hurdle to overcome.

The answer for me is to get moving, to just start something – anything – which engages me and cuts through that inertia. Filing is a great one for me (!?!) I get the music playing and I sort through the papers and put them into the correct files. I don’t make decisions, I don’t have to think, and slowly my big pile of papers becomes ordered. Tick. DONE!

Don’t try to be creative or charming on these days, using words on a day like today is a waste of effort. They come out jumbled or just as flat as your mood.

Some days it’s just wise to not be around people. It’s too hard to be nice when you feel like you aren’t coping. It’s hard to put on the social veneer that we all use and say ‘I’m fine’.

I wonder if we need these days to balance out the sunshine days…or if they are just my sub-conscious making sure I get our filing done.

When I have these days I remind myself that (so long as they don’t happen very often) then it’s OK to have a down day. Everyone has them, they just don’t put them on their Facebook page. It’s my bodies way of saying ‘look after me too.’

On these days you need to be kind to yourself, eat chocolate and drink wine, have a chat with a true friend, a good cry or maybe a soak in the bath. Do some chores and cross them off your list with a flourish and fanfare. Do something to make those happy hormones kick in…..shake it off….and let’s get through this!

And then tomorrow….is a brand new day.

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  • Love your perspective, how very true.


  • My pet hate is in fact clothing tags rubbing my skin. Those on my tops rub my neck and those in my knickers rub my skin too to the point that the back of my neck gets bright red quite quickly. If I remember I now remove them when I buy the clothes before they are washed.


  • The older I get, the less I’m bothered by the small stuff. I’m just grateful when I can put my head on my pillow at the end of the day and know that I and my family and friends are all safe and well.


  • Yes there a hills we have to climb every day, but take it like that 1 day at a time.


  • There is always a tomorrow =) Thanks for sharing this article!! Definitely a good read and puts things in perspective!


  • They do make you appreciate the good days tho.


  • My husband says to me, on the days I have struggled or had a bad day, ‘tomorrow is a brand new day’.

    • My husband says – you kept the kid alive and fed. He’s happy and there’s nothing else you need to do.


  • I’ve been having a few too many of ‘those’ days lately. So hard to get out of a rutt.

    • It’s tough when there are a few…..maybe change your morning routine, or start a morning mantra. For a while I started the day telling myself – Today I will feel relaxed…(you can be calm, relaxed, determined or anything.) Sometimes the littlest thing will make a difference. xx


  • You’ve definitely got the truth of it. My mantra is “This too shall pass”.


  • I always say the same “tomorrow is a new day.”


  • yes it is easy to feel overwhelmed running around doing what we do


  • Oh yes there are certainly plenty of those days.

    • With 4 little munchkins you must know about the unending list of chores!


  • great article….can definitely relate.Thankyou for sharing :)


  • on those days, we just have to breathe – and find gratitude in little things x


  • Eat chocolate….oh yeahhhhh !! helps me so much…. and listen to some soothing music


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