Something I truly believe will NEVER grow old is allowing one another the freedom to break our own special news (especially baby news)! No matter what it is, if it’s not your milestone to share, maybe you’re better off just keeping quiet regardless of how excited you may THINK you are. I can guarantee you that you are nowhere near as filled with joy as the person who is experiencing the good fortune!
My baby news was broken on social media by someone who I only speak to perhaps once or twice a year – and I was BEYOND ropable! Honestly, the baby was just hours old- not even a day yet. I hadn’t slept, I had just given birth for goodness sake and really all I wanted to do was pick up the phone and give her a solid piece of my mind!
How does anyone publicly break someone else’s baby news especially when this woman hadn’t ONCE during the ENTIRE pregnancy asked me how everything was going?! She showed absolutely NO interest – other than to break my baby news herself!
What A Cheek!
What’s worse is that we are family which means we have many mutual online contacts. Besides this, she had the audacity to tag me in her unwanted post meaning that everyone on my friend’s list got to see the announcement as well.
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So instead of taking a moment to simply catch my breath just hours after birth – between trying to latch a newborn, giving it skin to skin time to try and help regulate its sugar levels and temperature as well as dealing with everything a new mother experiences immediately after birth – I then had to log into Facebook, access my settings and adjust my security level to try and limit the number of people who could see her damn post on my end!
Now I know that this is probably why these settings exist in the first place – people simply cannot respect their fellow human being. However, at what point should an individual’s common sense also kick in?! It’s not her news to break! She’s a mother herself and knows the excitement of breaking her own baby news!
Instead of starting a war by making a call and telling this fool precisely what I think of her actions, I did what I usually do when I am livid and just wanting to see things from a different perspective…. I wrote this article about it for my FAVOURITE parenting website, Mouths of Mums, whilst still in hospital.
Was There A Reason To Her Madness?
I understand that perhaps this lady was just severely bored within her own life so she chose to steal my excitement and attempt to make it her own. But it doesn’t make it any easier to accept. I don’t feel any less hurt and I really have absolutely no idea what to say to her.
On one hand, I’d like to mention to her that what she did is incomprehensible, but then on the other, my husband keeps reassuring me that she must have had her reasons and burning a bridge over something like this isn’t worth it.
I hate what she did, I know it’s not the end of the world, but at the same time, I believe that it’s important to remind others that this sort of behaviour isn’t always welcomed. Not everyone is going to appreciate another person announcing their baby’s safe arrival. And maybe it’s also a good time to check your social media security settings to establish what others can tag you in and who that material is visible to as well.
I just wish I knew what to say to her, but considering I have absolutely nothing nice to say, I suppose it’s best that I simply don’t say anything to her at all.
What would you do if someone broke your baby news before you could? Tell us in the comments below.