A new mum has revealed how she was left devastated when a woman at the gym announced that ‘women who have c-sections don’t love their kids’.

The poor mum who had a caesarean herself was left in shock by the cruel comment which occurred at the gym.

Taking to Reddit to vent her anger the mum admitted that she was already feeling very upset and unsure if her c-section had been the cause of her difficulties in bonding with her child. She believed her body ‘failed’ her in birth.

She wrote: “Women who have c-sections love their children less, you know.” Thanks, random lady at the gym for that helpful comment!

“Because I’m already not coping with birth trauma and guilt over my body “failing.” I had a bad reaction to the spinal for my section, so I don’t remember the first time I saw or held my baby. I’m already paranoid our relationship is stunted because we missed skin-to-skin in the golden hour.

The mum also admitted that she was having problems breastfeeding her baby and was feeling very guilty about it.

“We’ve been having breastfeeding problems, even with help from an LC, and I completely blame myself for having to have so many interventions and not being able to let her latch right away. I’m in absolute tears in the gym parking lot. What a fantastic start to my day.

She added, “Pro-tip for this woman at the gym I don’t even know: when you overhear a woman telling someone else about having a baby, keep your opinions to yourself, bitch. I hope your children grow to hate you, and I hope your crunchy vaginal birth gives you no comfort in your cold, lonely nursing home. ”

“Women who have c-sections love their children less, you know.” Thanks, random lady at the gym for that helpful comment! from r/beyondthebump

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  • Wow this article shocked me to read! I cannot believe another person would comment on the way someone has given birth. It is hard enough with the breast feeding topic and now mothers are made to feel like this? Whether you had a vaginal birth or a c section it shouldn’t matter. You still birthed your child into this world the SAFEST WAY POSSIBLE. And that what it comes down to at the end of the day. No mother should feel any sort of shame for having a cesarean. What if that was the only way of that babies survival? I would love to sit down and have a talk with the woman who stated such a nasty comment. I think it makes me so frustrated because you see people out there that shouldn’t have children (people using drugs everyday, people abusing children) yet this person thought they would attack a mother on the way she gave birth?! Absolutely shocking. Now I’ve had to vaginal births and my sister has had two c sections – I always tell her how brave she was to go through them. I tell her how powerful she was to give birth in that way. It is huge surgery and I have close friends that are all mothers and the ones that have c sections I praise – the recovery isn’t easy at all (maybe for some) but every one of them say how painful it was, how they couldn’t hold their baby straight away which tore them up inside. How they had to still get up a walk a few hours later after having such a big procedure done. Instead of bringing each other down we need to start lifting each other up. Birth can be such a sensitive topic for some because every child that is born comes into this world differently. Being able to carry and birth a child whether it be vaginal or ceaseran is a magical gift. It comes from within the power that us as women have. Never judge a mother on how her baby came into this world!


  • What a horrible thing to say. How you deliver your baby is no reflection on your parenting. And giving birth to a child does not make you a good parent either. It’s how you parent/raise them.


  • How your baby comes out means nothing. Some of the best mums I know had c sections.


  • I know a Mum who had an emergency c-section of 23 hours labour. Her body went into shock and despite trying very hard and getting expert advice she simply didn’t produce any milk at all. Yes, she was disappointed but she didn’t love her baby any less. She knew her 2nd pregnancy would require a c-section and she wasn’t able to feed him for the same reasons.


  • Some people need to have C-Sections for medical reasons. This is almost laughable – I just can’t believe how ignorant, uneducated and insecure some people are!


  • I am afraid there are stupid people and as far as I am aware, ther has been no cure. One can however treat it, with mixed carefully chosen responses or heated reactions. You may chose to kindly tell the stupid cow she, has no idea what they are talking about or challenge her to prove this or just ignore the silly moo!


  • In the long run your decisions are not relevant that they were made with love is the most important thing. We are all just trying to be the best Mothers for our child and that looks different everyone.


  • I would have told her to bugger off!!


  • Being a mum is hard enough
    No one needs to shame anyone


  • What a load of codswallop. It wasn’t your fault what happened during the birth. Take no notice of this woman. Maybe she is overcompensating for her own inadequacies.


  • Absolute bollocks !


  • Two of my kids would have died if it wasn’t for c sections, people are really ignorant


  • Jeez some people just don’t engage their brain first before they speak do they?


  • Sometimes you just need to laugh and move on. People say shitty things.


  • Unbelievable !
    To be honest when someone says ridiculous things to you, you don’t take that serious do you ?
    I always explain to my kids: write that ridiculous message on a piece of paper. Then look that that piece of paper and ask yourself if this message is for you. When not: fumble it up and throw it in the bin.


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