Have you ever wondered why as soon as you arrive to pick up the kids they start misbehaving? Well wonder no more…
We touched on a similar topic last year with our article on, “Teach kids kindness but also teach them it’s OK to be an arsehole.” The main gist of that story was that kids should be allowed to relax in their own environment, their “safe place” and let their feelings and emotions go.
Constance Hall has today shared a similar message in that for many children that safe place is actually MUM.
Constance shares, “I read an article once that stated studies proved that kids are 800% worse behaved when their mums are in the room.”
She goes on to explain, “Well recently a professional explained what is really going on.
“Yes, on the surface kids become way more hard work when mums around.
But that comes down to one thing, it takes so much for a littley to behave and suppress the many emotions and desires to explore naughty behaviours that pop into their heads during the day. But they don’t do it to be “good”.
They work so hard at being good because their strongest connection, most significant relationship isn’t their to take care of their emotions with them.
Enter Mum and kids actually see a “safe place” to process and let go of all the things they have been working so hard at holding in while they weren’t their. And a safe place to experiment biting their brother around… and a safe place to demand 400 bandaids for a paper cut…
Holding that shit in is overwhelming.
Which is kind of cute.
Being their safe place, the bad arse behaviour comes out of love and not disrespect.”
Totally makes sense, don’t you think?
Children need to feel that they can express themselves without fear and if mum (or maybe dad for some) isn’t that one person they can feel safe to do that with, then who is?
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