Around Easter many families head out to explore and connect with loved ones. Family time is always best shared, but make sure to keep it balanced. Regardless of where you are heading this Easter – make sure to look after yourself a little bit too!
The key here is to find the balance between your own needs and the needs of the family. Many mums will organise everything for the family and find themselves almost too tired to enjoy the journey.
These tips will allow you to get some time for yourself to charge the batteries, even when the whole family is on the move:
- Offer to run an errand. Leave the kids with grandma and go do the food shop, buy tickets or organise something that needs doing anyway. Sometimes a moment to yourself can recharge any tired travel batteries.
- Be honest. Make sure to express this with love and simply say to your partner/mum/family that you’d love to have an hour or two to yourself. It’s not weak or selfish to ask for support. It’s actually very selfless as it’s in the best interest for everyone. It also means that you’ll be much fresher for the rest of the weekend if you have a little while to yourself today.
- Utilise the different sleep patterns. If you’re an early riser and your partner/family are not – go for a morning walk/jog/coffee and enjoy time to yourself before the house wakes up. If they fall asleep before you, do something just for you once they’ve gone to bed. A bubble bath or a good movie can recharge the batteries quicker than you think. And yes – a good sleep can be that thing you need more than the bubble bath!
- Share the fun. The more the merrier, right? Invite relatives and family in and allow everyone to help out with the activities, cooking and socialising. It’s not one person’s job to keep everyone happy, even if it sometimes feels that way. Remember – the more hands on deck and the better you delegate – the easier it is for you to grab a few minutes to yourself.
- Try new things together. When you’re away with the family you’ll most likely all be feeling a bit more adventurous than you would back home. Plan a new and fun activity together that everyone can participate in and let your hair down. Laugh together and immerse yourself in the memories you’re creating for your family right now. Fill your energy tank with both fun together and moments to yourself.
- Realise your limitations and what/who is most important. Everyone is different, but most people prefer a maximum of two activities a day when on holidays. Keep fun and remember that it’s also ok to sometimes say no to things.
- Accept people for who they are and still get the help you need. Staying with the in-laws or having them come stay with you is amazing (helping hands), but it can also be a challenge for many mums. By coming from a place of love and accepting the family members for exactly who they are you can actually have a better time together and even more time for yourself. When people have purpose and a task to focus on, they tend to get to work and stay out of our way. So involve the in-laws (and other family members) wherever possible. Give them a specific task in the team and make sure they feel valued and important. This way everything gets done and not all of it has to be done by you!
Remember, if you look after your needs as well as the family needs, you’ll all have a much better time away together.
Often we can push our own needs aside for long periods of time to adjust to what the family needs and wants, but it will definitely catch up with you at some point. Especially on the move where you’re often in a smaller space compared to your home.
There is nothing wrong with being just who you are, whilst loving your family to the moon and back.
How do you find time to yourself while on holidays? Please share in the comments below.