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Two incredibly close sisters have had a major falling out, after a wedding day pregnancy announcement. But there’s far more to this story than meets the eye.

The 32-year-old mum-to-be says she and her 28-year-old sister have always been very close.

“Point in case, she was the first person I told that I was pregnant, besides my husband of course,” the expecting mum explained on reddit. “I told her essentially a week after I got a positive pregnancy test, which was about three months before her wedding.”

The mum-to-be wanted to tell her parents and her in-laws about the pregnancy at around 10 weeks, but her sister insisted that she hold off until the wedding, and use the special occasion to announce the happy news.

“I’d be like four months along at that point, so I wouldn’t be showing really, and she thought it would be so special for her to be able to make an announcement about a ‘special guest’ at her wedding and it be her first niece or nephew, and my parents first grandbaby. I agreed, because it seemed like it meant a lot to her and, again, we were super close and I was happy to do that for her!

The first trimester ended up being a nightmare for the expecting mum, with terrible morning sickness and exhaustion. She says she would have loved to be able to tell her mum so she could have some added support, but wanted to honour her sister’s wishes not to say anything until the wedding day.

“Well, the wedding came along, and about halfway through the night, I asked her when the announcement was happening. She told me that she had changed her mind and that her wedding didn’t seem like a good time or place to announce my pregnancy. I was obviously super upset since I went through a really awful first trimester with only my sister and husband to lean on.

“I decided I wasn’t going to put the announcement on hold any longer just for her, so my husband and I pulled my parents aside and quietly told them, and told them to keep it private for the evening. They were thrilled, lots of hugs, a few tears, but a very touching and private moment. Literally no one else found out until I announced it on Facebook a week later.

“My sister found out around the same time as my Facebook post when my dad mentioned how we told him about it, and she texted me and called me a bitch who made her wedding about myself, and she hasn’t spoken to me since. I’ve messaged her and apologised probably a dozen times since then, but she refuses to talk to me, and now she refuses to come see her little nephew who is almost a month old at this point.

“My parents and partner think I did nothing wrong since she went back on her word, and that I should just wait it out and she’ll come around. I’m obviously unsure as clearly this has made her so upset with me, and we were so close before. Am I the a**hole?”

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  • Sorry that the sister you thought you were so close to has turned on you like this, but it is her loss in the end that she will miss out on many happy times with her nephew that she will never be able to get back. You have abided by all her requests and you certainly didn’t make a big announcement at her wedding which she originally said she wanted to do. I would be getting quietly on with your life and feeling sorry for her over time.

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  • Yes you could of waited a day or two
    It’s disappointing when someone high jaxs someone big day
    Not nice

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  • She didn’t upstage the bride on the day so that’s good and she privately told her parents quietly and asked them to keep it quiet. If nothing was mentioned her sister would be none the wiser.

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  • I think the sister is in the wrong. There wasn’t anything taken away from her on her wedding day and I’m guessing if the parents hadn’t told her they found out at her wedding, she wouldn’t have been any the wiser.
    It’s her now who is missing out on seeing her nephew so she needs to build a bridge so she doesn’t miss out on anymore time with her nephew.

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  • It sounds like little sister has been intent on all attention being focused on her – both in the lead up to the wedding day and on the day. I get the change of mind, but it’s not like the pregnancy news was announced to everyone. OP quietly told her parents and no one else.

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  • Well she didnt do anythong wrongnhere because she did wait as was asked to but then, she really coukd have chosen another day had her sister been clear about this

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  • The only person in the wrong is your little sister. I say little sister because she is the one being childish. You waited like she asked and then she changed her mind. You only told your parents and no-one else knew so how could you have made her wedding day all about you? I agree with your parents and your partner, let her be the one to apologise. You have nothing to apologise for. I hope she comes to her senses before it’s too late.

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  • Gee, what a mess. The headline suggested something different but… she did what her sister asked and her sister let her down. She then privately told her parents and did not in anyway gazump the wedding. So the bride is just a pest. Just saying.

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  • It could of been announced any other day but i think communication is key here

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  • Definitely not in the wrong and also tell your mum and dad and keeping it quiet on the night nothing wrong with that
    I would say it’s a jealousy thing

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  • I also believe she should have told you before hand she had changed her mind.
    She has created a lot of stress for you and at this time …stress is something you do not need.
    And as far as not seeing your son …she is now punishing her nephew for something he has no control over.
    I feel a wedding is not the place to announce a pending birth but it was her call and she should suffer.

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  • I think the sister should have told you before the wedding but she was probably distracted with her own agenda. I think you should have told your parents first before 4 months. She is the one over reacting, she made the choices.

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  • Your sister owes you an apology.

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  • Wow, talk about an overreaction from the bride! The sister did the right thing, despite her backing out on her word. She could have stolen the show and made a big announcement, but instead she pulled the parents aside and told them privately. What’s her problem!

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  • I can understand you feel misunderstood and sad. I truly hope your sister turns around

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  • Sounds like she’s being a bit of a princess. Her sister should have at least said something to her beforehand that she had changed her mind about not wanting her to say anything to anyone.
    Maybe something happened along the way which is what is making her act this way (like they’re trying but no luck).

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  • Sometimes it feels like people take their wedding day way too seriously and forget it’s supposed to be about celebrating love ❤️

    I’d probably definitely be annoyed if someone announced their pregnancy at my wedding- qs in they took the opportunity to take the attention off the people who spent all the time and money to have all those important people together in the one place as it is- but also it doesn’t sound like that’s what happened at all. I would be so happy for my sister and feel so grateful that she kept it to the minimum people that ‘needed’ to know really.

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  • I remember how hard it was to keep my pregnancy a secret at friends hens and weddings to not “steal there thunder” and I ended up not just relaxing and having fun so next time I will definitely tell them before.

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  • It seems weird that she is this upset. It’s not as if you made a huge announcement. I wonder if this is about something else???


    • I wonder too, like maybe she’s having fertility issues

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  • Yes you should not have announced it at her wedding. Think of it as stealing her limelight. It’s is her day. Announcing your engagement at a wedding is also a no no. It shows lack of class.

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