It’s pretty common for couples to disagree on a baby name, but what happens when one of them goes ahead with the name anyway?
This mum says she’s not sure if she’s in the wrong, after she gave her baby a name her husband didn’t agree to, when he was vulnerable and couldn’t object.
The 32-year-old first time mum and her husband Chris had their baby girl two months ago. She says they have similar taste in names and both agreed on Lara. But the middle name is where it all came unstuck.
“We found out a year ago that my sister Andrea had been diagnosed with cancer,” the mum explained.
“By the time I got pregnant she was already very sick. At 24 weeks pregnant, she passed away. We had not decided on a middle name at the time, but my husband wanted to give Lara his mother’s name, Jane, and he was set on it.
“After Andrea passed I wanted Lara’s middle name to be Andrea. He said he hated the name Andrea and it would make more sense to name her after her grandma than an aunt. This made me upset and I told him that his mother was alive and well, and I wanted to remember my sister. I brought up giving her two middle names and he didn’t want to do that either.”
When it came time for the birth, the couple still hadn’t settled on the middle name.
“Towards the end of the birthing process, the visuals were a bit too much for Chris and he passed out. So when the nurse asked what the name was, I said Lara Andrea. Once he was conscious again I told him that I put down Lara Andrea. He mumbled “fine”. I thought he was okay with Lara Andrea now, but now I realise he was trying to be nice because I just gave birth.
“Last month he brought up changing the name to Lara Jane. I said no because we had already named her, and I brought up doing two middle names again. He got mad at me and we’ve been arguing about this practically every day.
“He keeps calling her Lara Jane. He STILL doesn’t want to do double middle name. I feel our family and friends are biased because they either knew Andrea or know Jane. I feel like maybe I should’ve done a double middle name or put down Jane, and I’m wondering if I should change it.
“I feel like I might be in the wrong here for ignoring his opinion and taking advantage of the fact he was unconscious to choose the name I wanted.”
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