A mum fears she has ruined her relationship, after introducing her boyfriend’s parents as ‘grandma and grandpa’ at their first meeting with her young son.
The 29-year-old mum of one, who has a four-year-old son from a previous relationship, says she has been seeing 25-year-old Jay for 18 months, and describes him as ‘the most amazing man in the world’.
“He’s been amazing with my son (his biological father is not in his life) and I can genuinely see him as ‘the one’,” she explained on reddit.
She says Jay invited her and her son over for dinner with his parents, who she has only met three times in the year-and-a-half they’ve been together.
“I have not had any time to really bond with them I guess. They had never met my son in person either, but they both knew about him.
“By the time I arrived Jay’s parents were already there and helping him finish up dinner. We greeted each other and Jay’s dad asked, ‘And who’s this little guy?’. I introduced them to my son and then introduced Jay’s parents as ‘Grandma and Grandpa’ to my precious boy. I didn’t notice at the time, but all three of them became quiet almost immediately.
“I ended up waiting in the living room alone for almost half an hour before dinner and things just were incredibly awkward for the rest of the night. My son did end up calling his parents by ‘grandpa and grandma’ and I quickly noticed both of them would be very disingenuous and awkward about it over dinner but they did not say anything to me about it. They didn’t stick around for long after either but when they left both were very cold to me.
“I asked Jay what was their deal and he lost it at me.”
“He claims I put him in an incredibly awkward position. His parents apparently didn’t think we were ‘that serious’ yet and began to question him if I was only using him as a ‘replacement daddy’. He said that it was way out of line to introduce them that way without even talking to him beforehand. I think it’s ridiculous. If one day he’s going to be my son’s stepdad then why go through this formal nonsense? He claimed that’s ‘not the point” and we ended up fighting till I stormed out.
“We have not talked since and I have simply been waiting for an apology.”
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