May 24, 2019

Important message ALL mums need to remember.

I have a job. Actually I own the business.

I’d like to say it’s doing well, but I’m a bit of a perfectionist. It has grown in the last few years, but so has the workload.

The first months were the hardest. So many late nights, SO many. Some turned into all nighters… so many tears. I don’t think I ever cried more hard in my life.

Every night I’m always the last one. Cleaning up from the day, calculating expenses, worrying that things didn’t go well or that they might not go well.

It’s scary being in charge. And it’s hard to admit it. You don’t want people to think you don’t know what you’re doing. That you’re incapable and shouldn’t have taken the plunge to run your own business.

Sometimes I want to give it all up. I’m just too exhausted to do another day, but it’s my life. It gives me meaning.

Everyone has an opinion on how I do things. I’ve got people who have never even owned their own business tell me how to run it.

I’ve let people’s opinions bother me so much that sometimes I’ve even altered the way I do things. Silly right? It’s never helped me grow either.

I guess when you want to be perfect you’ll try anything.

I do have a business partner, but he is involved with other work so there’s more flexibility and although he is invested and passionate, he’ll never be where I’m at. He’ll never have the pressure or the worry. Sometimes I wish I was him.

It’s hard when you run things. There is no thank you, no recognition… just work and the drive to work harder.

There was one time I had to clean up all the shit everywhere, I cried so hard that I had to laugh. As the boss, you do it all.

I could never take a day off. I try, but no one can run things like me. They’d probably stuff something up, or steal or break something. Then I’d never forgive myself. It’s hard to relax.

When I tell people about my job, they’re not really impressed… actually they ask me what I do all day.

Even though I never sit down, never relax, physically or mentally, never stop, I’m always looked at like I don’t do enough, or that I’m not grateful for having the opportunity because god forbid I complain.

And I know if I do it right, my business won’t need me anymore, and that hurts, and although I’ll never make a cent, it is the most amazing job I’ll ever have.

To be called someone’s mother might not be a 9-5 or a paid job, but working hard to raise independent , well rounded, emotionally sound and good people is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

Never downplay a mother’s role, she never stops, no matter how overwhelmed, she is strong yet soft to her core. She nurtures others while losing herself, but she never quits, even when the odds are against her.

This post originally appeared on Laura Mazza Facebook page.

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  • I can imagine those that go off to work get more breaks and time to destress than those with a full-on household to run.

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  • Plus there are no tax breaks! you don’t even make a profit!! And the government/society doesn’t recognize the service/product because it takes 20-30 years for your hard work to come to fruition as an overall asset to society!!!

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  • While mother hood is the most rewarding job I’ve ever had, it’s also the hardest and the most stressful. This article is written really well and I agree with it all!

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  • Have been told I wear many hats in my day to day job. My other business at times takes second seat to my first as this is the most important job I will ever have, Some do find it easy while others struggle , in the end we will mostly get there as it is the love of the job that gets us through.

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  • Yep. I know this feeling.

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  • If you want to cal it a business I have one too. We all have our own style and give colour to our vision.


    • I love your comment about giving colour to our vision – well said and so true. :)

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  • Absolutely accurate and brilliant! She couldn’t have said it better. It’s truely touched me and reminded me why those long days are worth it

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  • People underestimate the effort and work and just gets put in front of the title.

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  • This article certainly points out the similarity to running a small business.

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  • Thanks for sharing your perspective and reflections on motherhood. :)

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  • Yes, so true!

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  • Very true! Great article and great way of explaining it.

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  • This is true but every parent deserves the recognition!

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  • This is so true. However I know one family the Dad does almost as much as the Mum does. The only thing he doesn’t do is the cleaning. He does cooking, washing and as much for the children as the Mum does most of the time. The chooks are let out to peck at the lawn and he often has to clean outdoor area. The kids usually do their own washing, hang it out and bring it in when it is dry. One of them sometimes used a step stool to put his on the line until he could reach. Their washing machine is deep and he fell head first into it once trying to get out something that was jambed under the agitator.

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  • Rah, men’s do an amazing job with very little thanks. But. Don think it can be called a business.

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