I am no stranger to sending myself thoughtful gifts – from my husband. I’m practically doing him a favour by making his life less overwhelming.
It’s almost like I’m saving him the time, trouble and stress of having to try and remember these things himself.
By taking the guesswork out of gift giving, not only am I ensuring that he never misses a special occasion, BUT, I’m showing myself ‘self love’, and that’s really important, because if we fail to show ourselves love then how will others know to treat us the way we would love to be treated.
Now I’m not suggesting that a gift is equivalent to love- I most certainly wouldn’t be inclined to repeatedly accept a bunch of flowers after constant explosive arguments. But sometimes it’s nice to be remembered on special occasions, without having to remind your loved one and without holding one’s breath in anticipation of something which may never eventuate.
But then the kids came along….
I must admit that my hubby would always remember every momentous occasion. Until our children got in the way and distracted his mind!
Suddenly they became his focus and took over his life- which is lovely, really, but I wasn’t completely prepared emotionally for the takeover.
Recently I sent myself a present for Mother’s Day. I knew that the shipping deadlines were coming to a close and my hubby wasn’t responding to the magnificent collages of gift ideas I was sending him- so I did it myself!
I even wrote the card
“My Darling wife Rochelle, I love you more today than I did yesterday, but not as much as I will tomorrow…” I had the store write in the gift card.
It’s something my hubby would NEVER say and will cause him the most amount of discomfort when he hears me reading it out loud to the children- oh, perhaps I forgot to mention- the children don’t know these gifts aren’t from their father.
No, I like to create the illusion for everyone, that I am married to a man that is just THAT loving. It fills their little lives with excitement and romance and it’s not doing them any harm… I mean deep down inside, maybe, my hubby doesn’t regret being married to me… he could possibly even love me… I hope!
But then it backfired…
Here’s where my acts of kindness to myself backfired just before Mother’s Day however… there was a knock at the door and my husband opened it to a delivery man with a beautiful box of roses.
They were absolutely exquisite, and my heart burst with happiness at the sight of them!
This was until my hubby asked me who they are from!
I opened the card to a curiously cryptic message! I had no clue who had sent me this gorgeous gift! And my details were on the box!
The card mentioned a getaway ‘no kids no partners- just us. We had so much fun together. It’s a holiday I’ll remember forever’. The timing could not have been more off – considering that I am pregnant… this card had the potential for some hilarious scandal and it was just so amusing to me!
Honestly, if the tables were turned and my husband had received the same card, I would be extremely jealous and somewhat suspicious! Not my hubby though.
No, he thinks I’ve sent these to myself. And my mind was racing trying to work out which one of my friends had a sense of humour that is equally as wicked as mine to think of playing a prank like that.
Curiosity got the better of me and so I called Mr. Roses to try and track down who could have been so incredibly thoughtful as to send me flowers. I just had to thank them for making my heart feel like bursting and making me laugh out loud at the card!
Turns out I had WON a competition through the wonderful Mouths of Mums website! I couldn’t believe it, I didn’t even remember entering! The cards must have been mixed up at the florist!
My Mother’s Day has been made, my heart is just so full, and I am deeply grateful to this wonderful company for their kindness!
Thank you Mouths of Mums for always bringing me the greatest joy!
It’s My Little Secret……
Of course, I’m not telling my husband I won these! Oh heavens no! We are in the middle of a series called “The Secrets She Keeps” and this only adds to the excitement of life… besides I don’t understand why he didn’t feel jealous… perhaps I have been overly affectionate towards myself over the years… maybe I need to hold back a little on the romantic cards I send myself…
Have you ever received a thoughtful gift from your partner? Tell us in the comments below.