My little girl has just hit the big ONE YEAR and I’ve learnt so much in the past year. About motherhood, life and myself.
I remember sitting in the hospital when she was only hours old thinking “you’re finally here, but what the hell do we do now!” Those first hours and days with a newborn you are in shock.
You have created this most beautiful precious creature and your job now is to make sure they are always ok.
You can read all the books, be members in every forum and talk to all the mothers but nothing ever really prepares you for the reality of parenthood. For me the love was instantaneous, I bonded immediately with my little koala and every day I loved her even more. I know this isn’t the case for everyone (something I didn’t really know until I was pregnant).
In the first few months you may not get much sleep. You’ll get frustrated. You’ll try to follow all the advice and feel like a failure if it doesn’t work. You’ll struggle to get out of the house some days, or even out of your pyjamas.
When you look back on these days when your child turns one, when they turn 2… or 30… you’ll think ‘why did I stress so much?’
You won’t remember the hard times as much as you’ll remember the joy and the way you looked at their little hands and wonder how you could create something so precious.
You’ll wonder why you listened to all those things people told you that you should be doing instead of listening to your own instincts.
Why did you let it bother you? Remember you are your baby’s mother and you will always know them better than anyone else. Why did you stress that you fed your 3 month old baby to sleep? It won’t be that way forever so why not enjoy those cuddles while you have them, because one day they might not want your cuddles. Why were you worried they weren’t waving/talking/walking/crawling/sitting up (insert any development milestone) yet? Enjoy the time they are a baby because it doesn’t last long and before you know it they’ve grown and you’ll miss that ‘babyness’.
My biggest lesson though, is the infinity of love. There is the love I have for my husband, romantic love.. but then this love for my baby is just beyond explanation. It’s the kind of love that doesn’t falter, that can not be broken.. sure ‘like’ may not be there when she’s screaming at 3am in the morning for two hours, but the love remains. It always remains.
So my wise words for parents of newborns, the first few months are hard and I’d love to say it gets easier but it doesn’t.
The things that were hard to begin with do get easier, but there will be new challenges that come. So no, it doesn’t get easier but you do get better at being a parent. You will learn how to manage being a mummy or a daddy, you will learn how to help them sleep, you will learn what their cries mean, you’ll learn how to cope with new behaviours or who to turn to when you aren’t.
It won’t get easier but you will get better at it.
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