A mum has asked if it is morally wrong to baptise her son just to get him into a religious school…

A mum has taken to Mumsnet to ask if it is morally wrong to baptise her son simply to get him into a local religious school. The mum says that the Catholic school in her area has a wonderful reputation, but that those who aren’t baptised have a limited chance of being accepted.

The Right Reasons

Despite her husband being baptised Catholic, the mum says that the family do not practice any religion. “My husband was brought up Catholic but isn’t religious,” she wrote. The mum admitted that she doesn’t feel comfortable baptising her son just to get him into a school, but that her husband seems to have no issue with it. “We haven’t had our son baptised but my husband thinks we should now to get him into a Catholic school,” she wrote. “Am I being unreasonable to think this is morally wrong?”

Consider Other Options

Comments on the post agreed with the mum’s feelings of apprehension about baptising her son. “I think it is morally wrong,” one forum user wrote. “I don’t think there is any good reason to have your child baptised into a religion which you don’t practice and don’t believe in.” “Are there really no other reasonable school choices?” said another. “I think Catholic schools are fine if you are religious but can’t see the attraction if you’re not.”

Many Aussie parents face the same dilemma when choosing a school for their child, but we think it’s always worth remembering that we are so lucky to live in a country with amazing public education!

Have you baptised your child just to get them into a school? Share your story in the comments!

  • If they’re not of this religion, why choose this school? School and learning is up to the child I think. If they want to learn, they will. If they’re not interested, they won’t, regardless of the school and how much you pay to get your kid in there and how goid you make yourself feel for paying exhorbitant costs for school tuition, telling yourself it’s the best for your kids


  • No I wouldn’t. If I had any intentions of getting them baptised it would be because of my or my families religion and would happen before school age . I think it would be hypocritical to do this if you aren’t religious anyway.


  • No its VERY HYPOCRITICAL like seriously…..thats just not good. Baptism means a whole lot more then getting into a religious school……its wrong.


  • I wouldn’t do it simply because I don’t want to force a belief on my child/ren, I would rather them make up their own mind about something, especially a religion. I would try explaining that to the school, and mention the father has been baptised. A small chance of getting in is still better than no chance at all.


  • Nope. But I’m not religious. If you are looking to get your kids into a religious school, why would you have an issue with baptising them? That’s a bit confusing to me


  • I can understand parents doing that if their local state school is really bad, or can’t meet the needs of their child and they think a religious school will be better for them. I wouldn’t do it personally because I’m not religious and I don’t want my kids to go to a religious school.


  • No probably not.


  • I would not


  • It is up to the family I guess.


  • Many people have done it. I think a school has to offer all the right things for you and your family. Just baptizing your child doesn’t lend itself to whether or not the school is best or right for your child But, I do know many who have done it, and other things, to get their child into a school.


  • I only read a Facebook question yesterday about whether a local Catholic school here were strict about baptism for enrollment. I thought it was a joke question to begin with. It is hard to choose a good school and remain confident in your choice.


  • My husbands parents baptised him and his sister to get them into a Catholic high school. While it was a good school, they both only went there for a couple of years before choosing to leave to go to the local public high school instead.
    I really don’t know why you wouldn’t just choose another school with a good eruption instead of you don’t want to baptise your child just to attend a school. Also most Catholic schools do take students who aren’t baptised/don’t practice Catholicism anyway, so why not just enrol without baptising?


  • I don’t think it’s right to baptise your child just to get them into a certain school. If you do this be prepared to change the way things are at home. Surely there are other schools just as good available near you


  • Why would it be morally wrong? After he attends this school he will be exposed to the Catholic religion and its rites and beliefs. He may choose to pursue this in the future – it’s his choice. There are plenty of parents at our Catholic school who don’t actively attend mass. It doesn’t make them less of a Catholic.


  • I think that is a terrible thing to do! What are you teaching your kids, if you think it is ok to lie about something as important as faith? You can’t have everything you want – sometimes you are going to miss out and that is ok. Geez.


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