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Choosing baby names is hard enough, but when family members throw in their two cents, things get a little sticky, as this expecting mum of twins has discovered.

The 24-year-old mum-to-be and her 27-year-old fiancé were thrilled to discover they’re expecting twin boys, after 12 months of trying. They’re now at the pointy end of the pregnancy, with just 12 weeks to go – and her in-laws have asked what they’re considering for baby names. And the couple has revealed they’ve chosen unique baby boy names.

For context, the expecting mum’s family isn’t religious, while her in-laws are practicing Catholics. “We’ve already decided on their names,” the mum-to-be explained on reddit. “Phoenix Grey and Griffin Dean.”

“We’ve never been ones for the run of the mill names,” she continued. “My name is out of the ordinary and my fiancé goes by his middle name Cassius. The idea of calling our children, not that these names are wrong or bad, Daniel or Thomas or Samuel doesn’t sit right with us. It isn’t us.

“My in laws are furious. One: because they’re not traditional names, two: do not bare any affiliation to family members; my fiancé is named after his grandfather, his sister is named after his aunt etc, and three: because they’re mythical creatures from other cultures. That is apparently what they dislike the most.”

‘My Mother-In-Law Thinks I’m Being Selfish’

The couple says they’re set on the names, and even had a unique girl name picked out.

“We really love the names. We already have a girl’s name picked out too, Valkyrie Lee to pay homage to my Danish grandparents that cared for me when I was a teen. We actually came up with this name before I even got pregnant. We like that all the names match in that they are powerful beings that can fly. We want to make our children feel powerful too.

“My FIL says to use them as middle names and give them family names as first names but we are already in love with the full names we’ve given them. We’ve even started calling them by them and bought embroidered blankets and clothes. As these are the first babies of both families, my MIL thinks I’m being selfish by not giving them traditional family names and that not doing so will set a bad precedent for the others.

“Am I being too stubborn?”

What do you think? Should the couple reconsider their babies’ names?

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  • Neither of those names are unique, I think the grandparents are just having a tantrum.
    This is why you shouldn’t share the names you’ve chosen until baby is born!

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  • I don’t see anything wrong with the names they picked and the idea that they will set some precedent is ridiculous. Grandparents should not get a say in the names. I hope this couple didn’t buckle under family pressure.

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  • I agree if you love the names they are your babies you’ve given birth to them you should name them how you see fit
    No need to let other people dictate what you do it’s your family your babies

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  • I think if you love the names you should stick with them.

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  • I like their names!! Go away in laws!!! Noone likes you… EVERRR!!

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  • Hmm… The boys’ names are fine. I’d hesitate calling a Girl “Valkyrie’ as it sets the baby up for a forceful personnalité she mat not possess and might lead to bullying or shaming later on. Maybe not her primart name?

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  • Names are so personal, and that’s the great thing about having children of your own – you get to choose the names of your own preference.

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  • I think names are a very personal choice so never get pushed to choose something you don’t like.

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  • It’s a tough call when someone is bound to get hurt. But they are your kids, so you can accept their input, but at the end of the day, comes down to your decision.

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  • Gotta do what feels right for you xx

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  • You’ll never make everyone happy

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  • I’ve heard way more questionable names than those

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  • Those names mean something to YOU, and that’s what matters most. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing what you feel is right and makes sense to you

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  • Stick with what you like and ignore anyone who doesn’t agree.

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  • Totally your choice so stick with it. I really love the names and I wish you all the best with your babies

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