Choosing baby names is hard enough, but when family members throw in their two cents, things get a little sticky, as this expecting mum of twins has discovered.

The 24-year-old mum-to-be and her 27-year-old fiancé were thrilled to discover they’re expecting twin boys, after 12 months of trying. They’re now at the pointy end of the pregnancy, with just 12 weeks to go – and her in-laws have asked what they’re considering for baby names. And the couple has revealed they’ve chosen unique baby boy names.

For context, the expecting mum’s family isn’t religious, while her in-laws are practicing Catholics. “We’ve already decided on their names,” the mum-to-be explained on reddit. “Phoenix Grey and Griffin Dean.”

“We’ve never been ones for the run of the mill names,” she continued. “My name is out of the ordinary and my fiancé goes by his middle name Cassius. The idea of calling our children, not that these names are wrong or bad, Daniel or Thomas or Samuel doesn’t sit right with us. It isn’t us.

“My in laws are furious. One: because they’re not traditional names, two: do not bare any affiliation to family members; my fiancé is named after his grandfather, his sister is named after his aunt etc, and three: because they’re mythical creatures from other cultures. That is apparently what they dislike the most.”

‘My Mother-In-Law Thinks I’m Being Selfish’

The couple says they’re set on the names, and even had a unique girl name picked out.

“We really love the names. We already have a girl’s name picked out too, Valkyrie Lee to pay homage to my Danish grandparents that cared for me when I was a teen. We actually came up with this name before I even got pregnant. We like that all the names match in that they are powerful beings that can fly. We want to make our children feel powerful too.

“My FIL says to use them as middle names and give them family names as first names but we are already in love with the full names we’ve given them. We’ve even started calling them by them and bought embroidered blankets and clothes. As these are the first babies of both families, my MIL thinks I’m being selfish by not giving them traditional family names and that not doing so will set a bad precedent for the others.

“Am I being too stubborn?”

What do you think? Should the couple reconsider their babies’ names?

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  • You’ll never make everyone happy


  • I’ve heard way more questionable names than those


  • Those names mean something to YOU, and that’s what matters most. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing what you feel is right and makes sense to you


  • Stick with what you like and ignore anyone who doesn’t agree.


  • Totally your choice so stick with it. I really love the names and I wish you all the best with your babies


  • Twins – how lovely, congratulations. They are your children, your choice of name, no matter what. Stand strong! You will regret giving into the in-laws.
    How rude they are asking you to give them family names and change what you have chosen.
    I was hounded by my in-laws to give my daughter a family name from her dads side for months. I stood my ground as she is my child so it was my choice. They stomped their feet but I couldn’t care less, I knew I’d resent it if I did.
    Stay strong in your choice mumma to be


  • If they don’t like the names that’s their problem, not yours. You and your partner picked the names out and both love them. It says a lot when your partner uses his middle name too. The only ones being selfish in this situation is your in-laws. Congratulations by the way


  • Your babies, you get to choose their names.


  • It is absolutely none of their business what the babies are called. Stick to your guns and give the babies those gorgeous names!


  • They should not have even asked, or if they ask had any opinion. I think it’s completely up to the parents and it is so nasty to try and bully you into feeling otherwise.


  • Naming your child is a very personal thing. As grandparents we need to respect the choices of the parents who have the right to choose their own names without pressure from anyone else. They are your children, stick by your choices.


  • I love these names.


  • They are the names you and your other half have chosen and that is all that matters. I personally think they are lovely names and would be more than happy to have your two beautiful boys and their names as part of my family


  • I personally find, that you aren’t stubborn.
    No one should judge your decision the way your in-laws did. You are the one who carries these wonderful babies and they will have to live with the names you’ve given.


  • I think you can name your children whatever you like. Your in-laws have had their time, and it is not their business or to be in anyway involved in your children’s names. Stick to your guns.


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