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A woman has revealed she refuses to let her husband bathe their young daughters ‘because they have different body parts’. And she believes boys she only be bathed by their dad.

The Queensland mother took to social media on Monday to discuss her ‘bath ban’ saying: ‘I just don’t feel comfortable for a man to do this’.

‘So hubby is upset with me because I have told him that I don’t (want him to) wash our two daughters in the bath or shower,’ she said.

The Queensland mother said she had no problem with her husband bathing their young son because ‘he’s a boy‘, writes Daily Mail.

‘I just believe that girls should be getting washed by their mothers and boys get the same from their fathers,’ she said.

‘It’s just got to do with the fact that mum and daughters have the same parts, same goes for men and their sons.’

She said her husband was upset and offended by her ban.

‘Hubby thinks I think ill of him, but it’s always been this way for me,’ she said.

The woman said she didn’t want her children to ever worry about whether they were molested or not.

‘People play the “I was molested card” so very often these days, I just don’t want in any way to give my kids the chance to even think about that,’ she said.

Her post was met with mixed reactions. With many concerned she is placing stigma on something that really shouldn’t be a concern.

So even as a mum she would never bathe her own baby boy? That is terribly sad.

Last year a dad received abuse for posting a picture on social media of him and his toddler daughter taking a bath together. Read more.

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  • Perhaps she need to look at the stats re children being molested. Yes its true that most often its by a trusted family member or friend but not always.
    Not all cases of children being molested are by someone of the opposite sex. So to be 100% safe perhaps the children should not be bathed unless both parents are in attendace so they they can both keep and eye on each other.
    The children should never be left with baby sitters and this of course includes their grandparents, loved family members and friends. They should also never be left alone with these people….not even for a minute.
    Dont send the kids to school, to kids birthday parties, a friends house to play and certainly never allow them to go on school camps or sleep overs.

    its too late now but the safest thing would be not to have kids at all. Thats the only way you can make 100% sure that they will get through childhood unscathed because to do everything you will need to do to 100% ensure that they are at 0 risk of being molested it means that you will be placing other fears and emotional scars there that they will carry for life.

    A normal degree of awareness and caution is all that is needed. Just like our diets…..moderation is key.

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  • I think the woman is living in the dark old days,it her husband after all not a stranger!

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  • This is really sad and setting the family up for gender-specific issues I would think, moving forward. Each to their own, but it’s more about what the children will learn growing up in this home.

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  • Just a thought, what happens if the mother is hospitalised for weeks due to some unforeseen circumstances. Who’s going to bathe the girls? What if they don’t have family nearby? The father should be able tom if she’s that worried be in there.

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  • This is just ridiculous and a fine example of everything becoming overly sexualised in the media, etc. Go back even 50 years and no one would have even come up with this line of thinking.

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  • I feel kind of sad for this woman that she thinks she has to protect her daughters from her husband and herself from her son. Wonder from which nationality she is from and if she maybe was molested herself.

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  • Each for there own but seriously it’s their dad sounds like she there are trust issues or something has happened to the mother if you can’t trust your husband it’s not a healthy relationship

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  • Each to their own I guess.

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  • Afraid I find this quite an odd thing to do. Having had both boys and girls, treating them the same is the best way to rear them I believe.

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  • What is going to happen if the Mum is suddenly too ill to bath her little daughter or the Dad is too ill to bath his little son? Are they going to get another relative (or a friend) of the “appropriate” sex to come and bath their child/children?

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  • So what do single parents do? Not everyone objectifies children or sexualises them.

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  • It is not my way of thinking at all – we parent equally and share all parenting duties equally. Rather sad for the dad and I can understand the upset. Possibly something to have discussed prior to having children?

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  • This is her choice and it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Maybe she is remembering something from her childhood. She is not stopping the father from having play time with his daughters, she just doesn’t want him to bathe them. I’d say let her be as she’s not hurting anyone.

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  • This is a bit ridiculous- maybe as they get older, but there really is no problem with mother’s and fathers bathing all their young kids. it’s only an issue if you make it one.

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  • Geez these articles are a nuisance. Promoting oversharing and needless outrage.

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  • “To each his own” is the saying …in this case her own but this is a situation that should be agreed to on with both parties and sadly dad does not agree, so there is a real problem.
    Clearly she has not taken into account the feelings of this poor man and the fact that he probably feels she may feel he will abuse the child,

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  • No, Im sorry, I don’t think this is sensible – certainly not while they’re young.

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  • It’s up to this family on how they handle things. However, I feel she is creating an issue that her kids might pick up on, that doesn’t need to be one.

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  • She is entitled to her opinion, whether I agree with it or not. I just do not understand why every personal choice is shared on social media.

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  • wow – my husband was the first person (with assistance from the nurse) to bath both of our girls – Whilst he doesn’t do it now (granted they are 10 and 6) and can do it themselves, they will quite often run around the house naked after a bath – some reason water makes them go crazy!!!

    I think there must be an underlying issue here, i feel for the husband – and if I was in his shoes I would probably feel the same way – I think they have a rocky road ahead of them with these feelings and I hope they can work it out and overcome this issue

    Personally I think it is fine up to a certain age for boys to be bathed by there mums and vice versa – I think when kids start to turn into teenagers or thereabouts and they are more aware of there body parts is when you have the option to step back and let them do it them selves – I have taught my girls how to bath and apart from rinsing out shampoo/conditioner properly I leave them to do it themselves.

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