A grieving mother has spoken about the guilt she feels from losing her baby during a home birth.

UK mum, Aimee Green, gave birth to Luna Valentina’s but soon after the umbilical cord ruptured and despite the new born baby being immediately rushed to hospital, nothing could be done to save her.

In a blog, she graphically talks about the heartbreak she has suffered her and partner Ryan Conroy lost their daughter, shares Daily Mail.

‘I kept saying sorry to everyone as I didn’t know what to do to make them feel better,’ Aimee wrote.

‘They would come over and drown me in hugs and kisses but all I could say was I’m so sorry.

‘It was my fault, why did I have a home birth, why didn’t I listen to them all and have a hospital birth, why was she a happy baby for 11 hours of labour but not the last few minutes?

‘What had I done? How was I going to apologise to Ryan? What if he falls out of love with me? I can’t lose him as well? My family hate me…’ Read her full blog here.

The brave young couple have shared their heartbreaking loss to help families in similar situations rebuild their lives.

Luna’s Fund will offer a range of services and financial support to other bereaved parents.


MoM’s recently shared what they wish people knew about miscarriage and pregnancy loss – Read their thoughts here.


If you are struggling with a recent loss there are a few support networks to reach out to below

The Pink Elephants


Bears Of Hope Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support
Grief Support: 1300 11 HOPE
Email: support@bearsofhope.org.au

PANDA National Helpline (Mon to Fri, 9am – 7.30pm AEST) Call 1300 726 306

24 hours a day, 365 days a year (including Christmas Day) by dialling 1300 072 637

Lifeline 13 11 14

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  • How horrible and devastating and heart breaking.


  • Very heartbreaking for all involved


  • I feel so deeply for this family and their loss. I just couldn’t imagine what it’s like to lose a baby.
    She will never forgive herself by the sounds of things.


  • So sorry for this family – but what is meant to be is meant to be. Doubt the outcome would have been different no matter where the birth was.


  • Most home births go just fine. And if something does go wrong usually they get you to hospital in time to fix it. But I never saw the hospital as the enemy like a lot of home birth mums do. I found it very reassuring that I was right there if we needed help. Its very sad this woman feels this way.


  • Bless this mum ! I’m from the Netherlands, where the percentage of home births is relatively high. My mum delivered all her 5 kids at home. One of my sisters was a midwife for many years and delivered her kids at home as well. Not all home births are dangerous.


  • That poor family, I hope one day she can reconcile with the guilt she must be feeling. Once she knew there was a problem, I’m sure they did everything they could.
    I give kudos to all the Mum who have home births, but this is why I will always go to hospital for labour. You never know what might happen, so I want the right people there to help straight away in case of an emergency


  • Poor woman. I’m sure she did the best she could. But home births are dangerous.


  • That’s heartbreaking. Poor woman. But home birth is not always dangerous. Something went terribly wrong here. :-(


  • I feel so very sorry for this family. However I am not an advocate of home birth for these very reasons. You just never know when you will need medical intervention and having to wait can be too long.


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