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A mum-to-be has revealed her pregnant colleague is naming her baby after a newborn’s first poo – and she’s not sure whether to tell her.

Both co-workers are in their final trimester, but their approaches to pregnancy, birth and parenting are at different ends of the spectrum.

“I am 37 weeks pregnant, a girl I work with is 36 weeks pregnant. We work from home but she messages me a lot on Slack to ‘commiserate’. I’ll admit though there isn’t a lot of camaraderie,” she explained on reddit. “We have very different birth plans and child rearing plans, which is fine on its own but she mocks pretty much every choice of mine that doesn’t match up with hers. I’m doing a birth centre so I’m a stupid doctor hater? (My lovely mother is a surgeon). I’m reading lots of books about birth and child rearing so I’m a helicopter parent, I want to breastfeed so I’m a crunchy hippy mum etc.”

The pregnant woman explains that while she is gathering every bit of information possible on labour, birth, what to expect, interventions and complications, her co-worker doesn’t want to know anything about the process.

“She just wants to trust God and the doctors about it all and not worry. Again fair enough, but she has snapped at me for replying to her asking about how an appointment was with, ‘It was good I had a consult with anaesthesia to learn about epidurals,’ and has repeatedly told me she wants to know NOTHING.

“I’ll admit it makes me feel like I’m walking a bit on eggshells when she does message as even something like me saying I was off because I had an appointment with a chiropractor because my pelvis was a bit sore made her go off on me.”

‘She wants to name him after baby poo’

The whole situation has made the mum-to-be cautious when sharing advice or information with her colleague. And now she finds herself in a sticky situation.

“Unfortunately she messaged me Friday saying she picked a name out for her baby. She wants to name him (no I’m not kidding) Mackoneum (Meconium). She said she heard a doctor say it about her baby’s first moments (it’s the first poo) and she liked the sound of it. I told her she should Google it, ‘to see if it had any cool meanings’. She said she wasn’t going to and she hated Google and Googling names ruins them because there’s always someone who doesn’t like it.”

While there’s no love lost between the colleagues, the concerned mum is hoping that someone lets her co-worker know the meaning behind her intended baby name.

“I really hope there is someone in her life who will let her know but I know she is very sheltered, I don’t feel it’s my place to because I feel telling her that’s the medical term for babies first poo will probably be breeching the boundary she’s set of never wanting to hear anything and it is something that can cause complications etc., so getting her to look it up would be going against her wishes to not know anything bad that could happen, which I don’t want to do.

“I also feel knowing she’s planning on naming her baby after poop maybe warrants an intervention? Would I be the asshole if I told her? Should I just mind my business I feel like maybe if we were better friends it would be okay but as stated our relationship is not very friendly.”

The mum-to-be added that while similar stories to this have previously done the rounds, this is no ‘urban legend’, and her co-worker truly does intend to name her baby after baby’s first poo.

So what would you do in her situation? Tell your co-worker, or leave it be? Let us know in the comments below. 

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  • I think they should rethink the name choice .

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  • I feel so sorry for the child if it does get named after poo.

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  • Hahaha. I would like to say don’t tell her but then a poor uninvolved child will be named poor!

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  • Next time she gets in touch with you see if you could slip into the conversation something about just learning that meconium being the first poo your baby will have. Then talk about something different. Otherwise if you know of any friends she has, let them know and ask how they think you should approach the subject with her. If all else fails, and as you said she is constantly giving you her opinion and judging you, tell her exactly what her baby will have to go through being named after her first poo.

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  • Please don’t do that to your poor child!

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  • You must let her know. That poor baby can’t live an enjoyable ife with that name.

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  • If they have been emailing a lot through the pregnancies, I think he should tell her. The other Mum will feel a bit stupid once she does find out.

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  • I feel someone has to let her now. Perhaps an anonymous note could work if you don’t want to tell her direct.

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  • Very awkward

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  • I think this co worker needs to hear the meaning of the name, not for her sake but for the sake of her unborn child. I think it would be reallly cruel to give the baby that as a name. The baby can’t help who it’s parents are but don’t torture it more by at least trying to prevent it having this name!
    I think you should try and find a way to anonymously tell her and then that way you’re not the bad guy in all of this. Maybe she’d take more notice if it came from someone else?

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  • I feeling she really cares then she should just let her know what it means. She can just say, o i don’t mean to interfere but the doctor was explaining about the early poos of the baby and they mentioned this name. Just so you know. Why to sit back and watch the drama even though her colleague is ignorant.

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  • omg. what happened to the old faithful names

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  • Quite weird!

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  • I’m sure when she tells the midwife what she is planning to name her baby, they will tell her. And if they don’t, well that’s her problem. Poor baby though

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  • Ha. This is so amazing. I can’t believe some people are so ridiculous. I would not tell her just out of spite….but that is me. She should probably be told.

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