A marriage proposal is usually one of the happiest moments for a loved-up couple. However, this engagement turned sour when a disgruntled bride-to-be took to social media to complain about the “tiny” engagement ring that her partner have her when he popped the question.

The woman shared the photo of the delicate gold ring with a minuscule diamond on the internet. She then asked the world whether she was “shady” and “materialistic” for not wanting to wear the “little a**” band, as reported in news.com.au.

She explained that she and her partner had been together for “eight years and talking about getting married for almost three.”

“This the ring he said he saved up to buy me. Am I being shady or materialistic if I tell this mf I don’t want this little a** ring?.”

A screenshot of the post was shared on Reddit, and has since attracted thousands of comments.


What A Cheapie!

The woman received lots of support from like-minded readers, pretty much calling her fiancee cheap.

One said: “Honestly, I’m with her on this. You can get affordable rings that don’t look like they came out of the little dispenser machine next to the stickers and gumballs at Cici’s Pizza.

“Even with a small budget he could have gotten something that won’t immediately snap if it gets snagged, and I wouldn’t trust that jewel setting to last more than a week with everyday wear.”

Another added: “I’m not materialistic when it comes to things like this but if my man proposed with THAT I would be full-on insulted.

“He went out of his way to find the cheapest possible option; which to me says that he’s probably like that in every aspect of the relationship and will probably be like that in every aspect of their marriage.”

“It’s not about the price, it’s the appearance of the ring. I actually snorted at how tiny and pitiful it looks.”


Talk About It

Many people tried to be helpful and suggested what the woman could do:

“She should gently let him know this is not her style and go with him back to the jeweller and show him what she would like.”

Don’t Get Married

As always, there were also comments that declared that the poster was being nit-picky.

“Don’t marry this guy because if the size, shape colour or style of a ring is more important to you than your future husband’s feelings, what your idiot friends think, what complete strangers think or his ability to buy a big flashy rock? You’re going to make a s***** wife.”

“My personal opinion is that the ring isn’t as important as the one giving it to you.”

Whose side are you on in this situation? Tell us in the comments below.

More On Mouths of Mums


  • She needs to discuss it with her fiancée.


  • I think it’s lovely he went and chose a ring – how meaningful! A relationship is much more than a ring….


  • An engagement is not supposed to be about the ring, just like marriage is not supposed to be about the wedding.


  • Ooh, I’ve actually never seen a ring like this outside of a kid’s plastic jewellery set. I can understand her disappointment, but I also think she absolutely should discuss it with him. I’m not for returning jewellery or not wearing it, but I also know my engagement and wedding rings have now been on my finger for 29-30 years. I do not take them off for anything. So considering that, she does need to feel more for it than she does. It’s not about the money either – it’s the sentiment and how it makes you feel. And if this is a problem, she definitely needs to discuss it with him.


  • Perhaps I am going to rock the boat, but this relationships doesn’t seem to be on solid ground from the outset – and the conflict over the ring seems to be a symptom, rather than the issue. If you have been talking about marriage for three years, and together for eight, then surely you know each other well enough for a) her to know his financial circumstances well enough to know why he chose this ring (getting married with financial secrets is a problem) and b) him to know her preferences in ring styles.

    There is no shame in not being able to afford a fancy ring, and an engagement ring is SYMBOLIC. There’s obviously a lot of information missing from this story, but at first glance, the whole relationship seems a bit rocky.


  • Shame on her. If she loved him it wouldn’t matter what the ring looked like.
    Seems to me she wants to be engaged for the fashion statement, not commitment.


  • He did say that he had saved to buy the ring and that should have meant more to her than the size of the stone. If she wanted a bigger stone she should have bought herself the ring. Wonder what she’s going to expect of her wedding. OMG just be happy he wants to marry you.


  • She looks like she has a little bit of a bigger hand, a ring like that just wouldn’t suit her. My hand though it would suit as I have smaller fingers


  • I’ve read a similar story to this, but the ring was impressive and the lady just ungrateful. I’ve never seen such a design, and it is so tiny. More suited to a wedding band. Perhaps she could suggest that to her fiance. If she doesn’t walk away..


  • Each to their own, my husband picked my engagement ring and thought about it all by himself. I dont have a chunky big a** diamond, whati do have is something that is special and u ique to me because my husband chose it. I then gotmy wedding band customed made to match my engagement ring, and they are perfect.


  • We don’t know his personal circumstances and what his income is. I know a lady whose then fiancee wanted her to choose the ring. She didn’t want an engagement ring so they discussed it and put the money to something practical that they would definitely need that wouldn’t be sold because it wasn’t loved or needed. In her career she wouldn’t have been allowed to wear it at work…unless she put it on a chain around her neck.

    • Exactly, we don’t know their personal circumstances.


  • That is particularly small. Maybe if it was in a different setting then it would look better?


  • This is why I went with my husband to pick out the ring. He didnt want me to be upset with the ring he chose so he gave me a budget and I picked the ring. Honestly, I would be pissed if I was presented that after 8 years though.


  • Anyway, if I were that guy, after the woman’s rant on social media, I don’t think I would want to marry her anymore. But that’s my thought of course!


  • What happened to the saying “it is the thought that counts” , I would be happy with anything I have never ever got one, and never been married, my mum said she never got an engagement ring they just got married.

    • I agree with you, it’s the thought that counts. Last year my husband bought me expensive earrings for our wedding anniversary and he was so enthusiast when he gave them to me (saying you will really love this). To be honest I don’t really like them, but I wear them with love. My husband tried to spoil me and I think that’s very sweet. I will not hurt him by telling it’s not completely my style, why would I ?


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